prosense Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Long story short. I met my ex girlfriend about a week ago. We dated about 6 months back in 2010.. and broke up. She broke it off, btw. Then after a year, I reached out to her. In the meantime, we did not talk to each other at all since I told her not to contact me when we were breaking up. The break up was peaceful. I wasn't quite an honest boyfriend not because I cheated on her, but I wasn't honest with my feelings and emotions sometimes.. (being a man.. blah blah..) Anyhow, even after a year, I wasn't over her. Yes, I dated a few, but none of them had nothing on her. So, I mustered up the courage to reconnect. And we met finally. The meeting last week was quite pleasant. We talked about each other about 2 hours.. I wanted to go home early, but she sorta dragged it out somehow..And I told her that I wasn't quite over her and still miss her. And that I have been hoping for and waiting for this moment for a while and am glad to get this off of my chest. (I did not sound desperate or anything. I did not beg or ask her to take me back) I also said that I popped out nowhere after a year long contact and me saying these is not fair to you, but I just had to say what I just said. And I told her that I don't know where this is going or not but I haven't really thought this thru. I am just glad that we met again and I, again, feel very relieved after waiting a whole year. To that, she said that she did not know what to say since it was flat out something unexpected. I told her she did not need to say anything back to me. Then, I said that "Well, as much as I would like to ask you out again, I don't think you'd be interested. like I said, I popped out of nowhere which is not fair to you and I don't think you would be interested in me.. well because I was a crappy bf back then and I am sure you have a bf by now." that's the point where she started to pour her heart out on me.. by saying "I just out of a relationship about a month and a half ago.. breakups are always hard.." and she went on. Eventually, we had a great time.. talked about the people we both knew.. and caught up and what not. After 2 long hours, we parted our ways. We did not exchange hugs.. it was awkward.. but well, that's what I expected. Again, I wasn't begging her to take me back.. I sorta played it cool.... ha.. by saying what I have been meaning to tell her. Since then, we haven't really talked to each other. I can't tell you exactly, but I am pretty sure that if I do ask her out, I think she'd accept it. We are both in different place from where we were about a year ago. My question is, although I am confident that she will take me upon the offer, I am not certain it is a good idea mainly because she just got out of a relationship.. I don't how long it was and whom it was with.. I did not even ask or become jealous. I don't want to be the doormat or the rebound guy. In this situation, what should I do?? Should I just wait? or broach the idea??
monkey00 Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 If she is what you want then I say go for it. You've got nothing to lose. If you guys do hook up and get back together it doesn't mean you're the rebound guy. Maybe she does want to get back because of those old familiar feelings, and the good things that were associated with it. A few years ago I had an ex pull this on me. Sadly when she approached me about it I was uninterested in that point. A few months later I was but it was too late and she was seeing someone new. Don't make the same mistake I did. Life is short, if she is worth it to you then get her back!
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