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I had to go to the office she works at today to fix a problem, we work for the same company different locations. When I walked in she Cheerfully said "hello my friend", I said hello. I talked with her coworkers and started working on the issue I was there to resolve. She told me that her parents were bringing her daughter to the office. Her daughter showed up and ran up to me and gave me a big hug. My x's mom came up and hugged me and talked to me about what had been going on since she hadn't seem me recently. Her dad came in and was friendly. Her mom even asked if I could come to her house and help her with some computer stuff.

 

She had a picture of her and her new guy on her desk. She acted like we were old friends and everything was perfectly normal between us. I have only seen my x twice in two months and only talked to her 3 times. I think it's pretty obvious she has moved on, why is she acting so friendly towards me.

 

Also she still has some stuff she needs to pick up from my house. But has been two busy for the last 2 months. I just want it all over with.

 

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M2155 Established Member

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When I walked in she Cheerfully said "hello my friend"

 

Well I don't know the circumstances of your breakup but "my friend" is an obvious assertion for you not to get any ideas. She was probably overly cheerful to say no hard feelings and to not feel so guilty or show emotion. I would act this way if I ran into an ex (regardless of how I really felt) so it doesn't sound so strange.

 

You would rather her be friendly than get dramatic

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Its normal to be friendly if she has totally moved on.No reason for anything else

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She would say "hello my friend" all the time, we didnt want everyone in the office to know about us and talk about it.

 

The reason for the break was that she kissed another guy, we tired after that but she stopped talking to me when I said I couldn't/wouldn't watch her pets when she went out of town with this new " friend".

 

Since then she has called me twice, I think, to just chat, well more then twice but I only answered twice. She took me out to dinner one night with all our kids. Almost no contact at all.

 

I had to work with her yesterday, I really didn't have anything to say to her. So I didn't say anything. She tried a couple times to say something/ start conversations but I never really could get into it. I didn't really want to, also, when I looked at her I could see the image of her in my head has changed she isn't the most beautiful woman on earth anymore.

 

At one point she was talking to a techy guy (i was in the same room with a couple other people) we both know (he knew about us, but I don't think he knows there isn't an 'us' anymore) about how good her camera is on her phones and the other person asked for the details (megapixels). She didn't know, she look to me for the answer. Then she was saying how she takes the little card out of her phone and prints the pictures at the store, he suggested just printing them at home, she said she didn't know how, and the other guy said I know you have an IT guy in your life that can help. She paused, and responded in a low tone 'yes'. The whole room was real quiet for about 10 minutes after that.

 

I feel like I an healing but coming on LS and venting/ranting really does help.

 

Thanks

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