tigz Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 so my girlfriend of a year just broke up with me. shes away at college, but thats not really the issue. her reason for a break up was because she was not herself anymore. and the relationship was more work than fun. im being completely honest and telling you that there was no real issues. no trust issues, no arguements, pretty much nothing and she wont even talk to me. were not talking right now because honestly i am afraid i'll push her even more away. im afraid if i try to talk to her, even normal, she'll just ignore me. and im sitting here asking myself, why cant she just talk to me about it? why cant she tell me the reasons why she sees the relationship like tihs? i thought we were fine, i was having fun. i see this "reason" as something you should atleast TRY to fix. and she wont even talk to me about it. we haven't talked since the past monday, and her birthday is nov 1st. i plan on not talking to her whatsoever until then, and just say a nice "happy birthday!" on the 1st. and go from there. im not really asking how to "get back with her", im more of asking a few things like. why wont she even talk to me about it? how do i atleast get her to talk things out? and yes, i do want to get back with her, because like honestly... nothing happened
Author tigz Posted October 22, 2011 Author Posted October 22, 2011 i'm about to break guys. i thought i could get to her birthday (nov 1st) but its soo far away. i just want to talk things out with her. so badly. myself and my family have told me that if i dont wait to her birthday i might ruin everything. but everything seems ruined already so why not give it a chance.
joseph17 Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 The reason you don't call her is because you want her to miss you. If you contact then you will be breaking that cycle of giving her time to think. In this period of waiting go out and do something. Go have fun without her(I know it's hard,been there done that) but you have to do something t get your mind off her. It's not easy at all but something that has to be done. Not being able to see her on her B-day sucks but maybe you can send her roses through one of those flower order places online and put something like" Missing you and thinking of you Happy B-day". One you let her know you still care and two you let her know how you feel without having to break the NC rule. Not knowing what went wrong sucks but maybe it is for the best.Keep me posted on what happens
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