aerogurl87 Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 If you had to choose, which would you choose to be with? The person whom you love passionately, but who is on a path in life you don't necessarily seeing yourself going down as you don't think it'll make you happy(not bad like drugs or anything). Or the person who is on the same path of life as yourself, but whom you don't feel a passionate love for.
Duckduckgoose Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 I'd pick the one who is good for me. "Passionate" love fades. Then you're stuck with someone who isn't good for you and is going a way you'd rather not go. When I was in my late-teens/early 20s I would have picked the one I was passionately in love with. Probably because I believed that love would change people and everything would turn out okay. Ha.
Author aerogurl87 Posted October 22, 2011 Author Posted October 22, 2011 I'd pick the one who is good for me. "Passionate" love fades. Then you're stuck with someone who isn't good for you and is going a way you'd rather not go. When I was in my late-teens/early 20s I would have picked the one I was passionately in love with. Probably because I believed that love would change people and everything would turn out okay. Ha. Hmm that's true I guess, but playing devil's advocate here for a bit, at least you'd be able to think back on those passionate times with the one who you loved passionately when things got hard. Wouldn't have that with the one who was just good for you.
counterman Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Tough one. I would say the one who is good for me, with a small flame burning on the logs. Passionate love fades quickly and I, for one, don't like look back at passionate moments in the past to keep me going... I'm more of a now kinda guy and looking towards the future.
whichwayisup Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Passion is great but eventually it dies down and if one or both are addicted to that type of passion, relationships can end just as quickly as they start once it fizzles out.. Slow growing passion and being with someone whom you love, respect and can totally be yourself with IS the healthier way to go. Just my 2 cents.
Citizen Erased Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 I used to focus on the first kind. Got me bloody nowhere except a couple broken hearts, a long lasting relationship that bled me dry and a maybe still damaged friendship. Thankfully there isn't just those two to pick from. There can be the guy that sets your girly parts on fire and also is right for you.
Mme. Chaucer Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Thankfully there isn't just those two to pick from. There can be the guy that sets your girly parts on fire and also is right for you. That's the truth. If you are facing a choice like this, I believe the answer is "pick neither now." It's time to be single. The one who you will love AND who is good for you is the ONLY one to pick, and if he or she is not in front of you now, take some time.
grkBoy Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 I pick the one who is good for me. The fluttery fireworks thing doesn't last as long as a lifelong true love. No matter how much lust makes things explode in passion, the realities set in later and thus those differences end things pretty fast.
Professor X Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 If you had to choose, which would you choose to be with? The person whom you love passionately, but who is on a path in life you don't necessarily seeing yourself going down as you don't think it'll make you happy(not bad like drugs or anything). Or the person who is on the same path of life as yourself, but whom you don't feel a passionate love for. How about neither? No-one puts a gun to your head (I hope) and forces you to choose.
OnyxSnowfall Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 I'm with the neither crowd..... It's possible to passionately love someone who shares a life path compatibility with you.
Star Gazer Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 That's the truth. If you are facing a choice like this, I believe the answer is "pick neither now." It's time to be single. The one who you will love AND who is good for you is the ONLY one to pick, and if he or she is not in front of you now, take some time. I totally agree, hence why I've picked neither for now.
Eddie Edirol Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Hmm that's true I guess, but playing devil's advocate here for a bit, at least you'd be able to think back on those passionate times with the one who you loved passionately when things got hard. Wouldn't have that with the one who was just good for you. And as weve seen on this board, only the fools choose to mask their present reality with thinking of the past. Too many people on this board not facing the truth because of thinking of passionate times of the past thats long gone, when their relationship is down the tubes and should be ended. "Oh yeah, he abuses me verbally all the time now, and we dont do anything anymore, but I like to think of how he used to say sweet things to me that set my heart on fire 5 years ago when we first started dating. I like to hope that he will change and go back to that....." How many times have we seen this on LS?
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