hellotheretoday Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 Hi everyone, I'd been in a relationship with my boyfriend since february, we had a one month break, which was his choice. After we got back together, things were great and we seemed very happy- at least I was happy. During this period I found out my boyfriend had had a man of 20 at his flat, he didn't tell me about this guy, or ever say he had been to his house. He says he came over for coffee. When I asked him about why he didn't tell me about this he simply got up and walked out, saying I was accusing him of something- which I was not. I was simply asking him why he kept this young guy a secret. Anyway he didn't really contact me for a few days, just the odd text. He suggested we take a break or something as he claimed his head was messed up. Anyway, yesterday he came over with some of my stuff, we talked about why he didn't mention this guy, and he understood why I was concerned and could see my point. I told him my close relative was dying in hospital, I had just found out, and he said "sorry to hear that, but it's got absolutely nothing to do with us". I felt really hurt. He just suddenly got up and walked out of my house- the relationship seems to be over, why I don't know. (By the way he is 45 and we are both gay). Anyone who can shed some light would be appreciated.
lovehurts.x Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 That does sound like some very suspicious behaviour and you are right to question him, regardless whether you were broken up or not at the time. I think his totally insensitive behaviour towards you was very selfish. He doesn't really seem to care about your feelings, it's all on him and his terms. You might really like the guy, but he's not a very nice person and you deserve better than that
Author hellotheretoday Posted October 21, 2011 Author Posted October 21, 2011 We were together at the time when this happened.
Buttercup84 Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 I am so sorry , what a jerk.And a 20 year old ? how pathetic. You deserve better than him , at his age he should know better than to treat someone like that.
lovehurts.x Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 oh right, well this doesn't make things any better. This might sound harsh, but I am being honest. Your partner just doesn't seem to want to be committed, he's broken up with you once and then he had a guy over at his place when you were still together. I think you know in yourself when something isn't right, and you're not happy. You need to have trust to make a relationship work, you need to be equals.
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