lymtal1 Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 Folks, Need your thoughts. I have been out on the other sites for about five months (break-ups, coping). I think I like this one better So I met this really great girl the other night. She was actually my server at a restaurant. A student by day but an older student actually. She was 26. She was very interested I could tell as she made some comments that indicated so. I was actually waiting on someone who showed up late and left early but for good reason. We were just good friends so no big deal. Well I got the "i would not have gotten here late and left early" line. Made me smile. So for the rest of the night we carried on some neat conversation. Focused on dating, guys and gals, how people get treated, being too nice etc. Just fun conversation. Well at the end of the night I gave her my number and told her we should go out as I thought she was cool and we had some great conversation in a setting that was not made for conversation. She laughed and said that she thought that would be nice and maybe we could give each other advice about the opposite sex and ha ha. Haven't been here at this stage in a long time just getting out of a long term relationship so not sure what I should expect as this is not something I do on a regular basis. Now for your thoughts. How long before I know she is not going to call? Hasn't called in two days just calm down. A week goes by don't hear from her don't expect her to. You get the point. Usually just ask for a number, tried to play it different. When can I go back to this place and not be uncomfortable about seeing her if she don't call, but really don't care about that as it won't matter to me anyway. They have way too many beers so i'm going back soon. In reality if I don't hear from her again, no biggie just wondering what you guys think. Thanks for your thoughts
Trovador Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 Only time I gave my number to a girl, as opposed to me asking hers, was because she didn't have a phone... boy, the wait was long! It's easier (or painful, maybe) when you, the male, has to do all the thinking and the working (do I call her tonight or tomorrow? Isn't this a bit pushy? etc.) Well, the girl at last called (two weeks) and it all went fine... Anyway, some girls like to take their time, and they are not really playing games, but that's the way they are wired... they are less impulsive than us guys and they don't think too much about what the other party might be feeling at those moments of silence, that is if they ever are going to call... But I also think that every day that goes by without contact is a little love lost... so, three days is my mark... after that, I won't hope too much is going to happen, life goes on, baby...! However, I have had many surprises, so I am thinking of updating my mark to five or six days...
Author lymtal1 Posted October 22, 2011 Author Posted October 22, 2011 thanks trov, i am on day two so i like your five or six day mark. it will give me a little more time and really if she is not calling anyway why not extend the hope out just a littel bit?
eweezzee Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 I dont see her calling you at all, seems like your already prepared for it though, goodluck! E
PlumPrincess Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Anyway, some girls like to take their time, and they are not really playing games, but that's the way they are wired... they are less impulsive than us guys and they don't think too much about what the other party might be feeling at those moments of silence, that is if they ever are going to call... You've got to be kidding me. Oh, the irony! Read this: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t302353/
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