Robbie7 Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 Hey all I need a bit of advice Well I'll start from the beginning, me and my ex was together for about a year it was going good but we would argue quite a lot about her being mates with other lads, to cut a long story short I got very jelous and we argued a lot she insisted she never cheated and I truly believe her. I went uptown and got really drunk and brought a girl back to mine. Massive mistake I know she found out and cried for days. I never slept with the girl even though she thought I had. I didn't know what love was until we split up. We tried to make things work between us but instead of giving her time I rushed things and still even got jelous when we was taking it slow. This went on for months until we said we had to move on and stopped talking. A few months went by and we started texting again the usual she said she wanted to be friends so we casual texted. I wasnt really intrested in seeing other people I was still in love with her and never actually got over her. My friend told me he saw her drunk in town and she still said she missed me and loved me so after 2 months of not texting I started speaking to her. So after a year of being split up We decided to meet up & talk. We was completely honest with each other and said we both still loved each other. She asked me if we got back together what would change and that. She also said she had lost a lot of her so called lad mates due to being single and them trying it on with her. So she realised why I got angry and jelous. She was only 17 when we got together so thought her lad mates where real mates. And I know that 99 percent of lads only think about sex. After that I kissed her and I said this felt weirdly right she agreed. This is a few days along we texted and I said we should meet up at mine to talk again. But she said she couldnt see me a lot and wanted to take it slow. What does this mean and how much time should I give her ? I know I should focus on rebuilding our relationship but how. And for some reason I get jelous of other lads that talk to her on Facebook. Like today she is flirting with this lad it hurts and I know I need to give her space but how do I go about winning her back. ? Sorry about the poor English and grammar I was typing this on my iPhone it's hard lol
othersideofthepillow Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 Here are my two cents for ya: With everything that has happened with the two of you, you NEED to take things slow. And by slow I mean, take ur mind back to the point of when you 2 first became interested in each other. Back than you wouldnt dare of texting her all the time, calling her all the time, always asking to see each other.....back than you more than likely contact each other a few times a day, every other day or whatnot but still kept things upbeat and optimistic, flirty and endearing...right? Thats where you need to start at again. The relationship you had is done and over with so DONT try to "pick up" where you left off - you left off breaking up so you dont wanna go there again! lol. the whole jealousy thing you have to get past. she is a human being and has every right to talk to someone else (obviously not flirting though cause im sure she wouldnt want you doing that - but dont "go looking" or think every convo she has with a guy is flirting) to be cordial and friendly. im sure you would talk to a girl (not in that way) so try to keep that in check around her for sure. sometimes getting back together takes a lot of time but if you BOTH are COMMITTED to making it work, notice i said BOTH, than there shouldnt be anything that can keep you guys from it! good luck!
PrissyDixie Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 sometimes getting back together takes a lot of time but if you BOTH are COMMITTED to making it work, notice i said BOTH, than there shouldnt be anything that can keep you guys from it! Othersideofthepillow is dead on!! We often want things or think they should happen on our time table and everyone doesn't process everything the same, deal or handle the same. Respect and Communicate. I love the hope of a second chance and believe we all should go after them as long as something remains. Best Wishes
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