pregamer80 Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 Okay my girlfriend of over a year dumped me last night. I'm completely heart broken and don't know what to do. She's done this to me once in the past but this time I think it's done for good. She dumped me basically over money. Now I'll explain. I recently started my own online company in April after struggling to find work in this down economy. My company in sales and traffic is growing every year. I had to move back into my parents house because I needed to grow my business and I have a lot of debt from credit cards when I wasn't working, student loans, etc. Lately she has been pressing me to get a place with her. I've been trying to sell my car to rid myself of the high payment and get something cheaper. Also this would help me with some extra change to help us move. No luck. SO last night she said she had enough of waiting and is done. She told me she's tired of living on a hope that we will live together. She told me that I'm comfortable living with my mother and that I'll be there till I'm 50 (I'm 26). She told me that I need to step it up in life She has a good job but is having financial issues of her own I can't help with her right now. Her last boyfriend was very financially well off and helped her a lot. I feel she misses that comfort of having a crutch of someone with money. I feel like a loser right now. Like I'm not good enough. I'm so heartbroken. I don't know what to do because I don't want to lose her.
Feanor Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 Unfortunately you're just going to have to deal with being heartbroken for a couple of weeks. Getting dumped sucks, I feel your pain. Maybe just use it as an opportunity to focus on yourself for a while, getting your online company rolling and working on your financial issues. Focus on yourself for a while, go out and have some fun, hang out with your friends. Try and distract yourself by having a good time so you don't have to think about her. That's the best you can do and then after a little while you'll feel better. Even if you want to get her back, you'll still have to give her some space. Hope everything works out for you!
DenumChkn Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 Do you really want to be with someone who can't stick it out with you through the hardest of times? How about she steps HER game up and supports you until your business can grow and you can take care of both of you? Feminism and independence are convenient until the money becomes an issue, then suddenly they want to revert to more 'traditional' gender roles. You deserve better.
Fondue Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 The next reasonable course of action is to clean yourself up, put on a nice suit or some fancy clothing, maybe a shiny watch or cool accessory and hit the the most popular bar in your area. Get with a girl who just got out of college, know that you still "got it." You'll feel better about yourself ten-fold. The college girls are attracted to slightly older guys who seem to have their **** together. Even if you don't at the moment, pretend like you do and get hookup with a new girl. Just once. I'm not trying to sound like a dick, but trying something different for a change will really boost your confidence and help you get over her. If you bag a nice lady, you'll feel like the man for at least a week. That'll propel you in every other aspect of your life.
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