vallee Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 I was studying for my deg in Netherlands in Sept 2009. I went there with no expectations other then to obtain my deg n coming home. But then I started falling for him. The first we met, he made a really Gd impression on me the night I went out with the local students for a drink n i managed to ask him for advice on traveling Europe during the autumn break. Aft Tt we see each other a lot ard sch (boarding sch... so its not Tt big). I was always too shy to say hi. So I would jus smile at him n hurry off. Or when he's with his classmates (all guys mostly, since its a marine sch) I would be too shy to acknowledge him. Finally towards the end of my stay aft some interactions n heading out for coffee with friends frm sch and movie night & me hinting Tt we should go for star gazing together, We went on a date. It was amazing n we talked non stop. Frm then on, till I left we were together every second tt we could, studying together, have meals, going for walks till wee hrs of the morning. On the day Tt I left, we did not commit to a relationship but he promised me he would come to singapore to visit me. We continued our communications via phone calls, emails,Skype, texts. He fulfilled his promise in Jul 2010 .... During our 1 mth vacation, at the begining he said he can't handle a long dist relationship cos even with the modern tech Tt we have, nothing compares to being there n seeing each other n the physical contact. But as time passes, we were not able to surpress the feelings of us falling in love. He is always careful abt not creating any false hope n try to maintain his distance. B4 he left he told me "I love u" which I never expected him to say. I had indirectly hinted tt I love him n have always pt all my cards on the table abt how I felt for him. Yet again... even aft all the feelings we didn't commit the relationship.(I wanted a relationship to try to make things work... but the long dist is really deterring him) he went back to sch n I made my flight bookings for traveling back to the nl to see him. We continued chatting like lovers... really burning still frm the Passion we shared, the love n being able to be together. But aft a while I started to feel him change again. He stopped saying I love u etc n I noticed frm our communications tt he is once again trying to distance himself. We always talk abt what we shared during our summer vacation together, what we TOT at certain moments & how we felt abt it etc This yr Jul 2011 we met up n he promised to give me a final ans to the relationship. We spoke abt it n he said to remain friend... since the distance have made his love for me fade away. But the more time we spent together his feelings for me changed again. We share n did everything couples in a relationship would do instead of keeping to remaining jus purely friends cos regardless of wad he said I'm still deeply in love with him. Once again when i had to leave, he promised to see me again in sg. But we still havent come to a conclusion on he relationship Tt we have btwn each other. N we r still commuting like couples, talked abt times we spent together, intimate moments etc. There r soooo much tears, heart ache, frustrations, confusion inbtwn all these. I have the feeling tt maybe he's jus not tt into me. His confusion in wad he wants n what his heart feels n being practical have turned me into a emotional roller coaster at times. The otherday I laid everything down again on the tables abt how I felt n if we should jus stop communications once n for all. Maybe we will try a normal friendship when I got over loving him women to man. But he left the final decision to me. Stating Tt he too dun know what else to do there then to keep communicating the way we r now n have always been doing... The situation btwn us have been on my mind for the pass 2 yrs... I'm really at my wits end now.... should I hold on till he graduates next Sept or should I make a clean break frm him???
creighton0123 Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 I would suggest that you move on. Things between you have become far too complicated for a long distance relationship to be sustained, especially when there is no end in sight for the long distance aspect of your relationship. In the future, please try not to abbreviate your words so much. It makes it difficult to read and, because of that, you can be perceived as being very immature.
Author vallee Posted October 24, 2011 Author Posted October 24, 2011 Thanks for your advice! Would take note on the abbreviation pt.
wild_urge Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 Thanks for your advice! Would take note on the abbreviation pt. I started reading it and then I gave up, it's just so anoying, people really won't take you seriously because of that. Good luck
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