Author LoveBear22 Posted October 25, 2011 Author Posted October 25, 2011 I know you want this thread to slip into the abyss and I shouldn't keep posting, but what was that about compassion? How were you not compassionate to her? Because you were heart broken over the break up? I don't get that. Or were you not compassionate during the relationship? Its okay really, I like talking about it with you since I cant talk about it with anyone else (or dont want to, rather). I was ABSOLUTELY compassionate during the relationship. Even after everything she said i was an amazing boyfriend and person and that it just didnt work out, blah blah blah. I did everything i could for this girl, in the most romantic ways possible, and waited on her hand and foot (she is quite spoiled, and i spoiled her too with love, intimacy and everything else). She said that my lack of compassion was not forgiving her and understanding why she slept with somebody else repeatedly while I was away. She said I should understand that I left her lonely and she was vulnerable, and the other guy was just there to "comfort" her while I was gone. I skyped her every day, all day, sent pictures videos, and twice sent a $150 vase of flowers to her... she tied the flowers i sent to her bed and then slept with the other guy a few nights later. It is morally disgusting, in my opinion. My abroad experience was, sadly, largely spent trying to make sure she was okay.What a mistake.
ShannonMI Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 No GF right now, I am hooking up with someone casually but she just got out of a relationship as well and I am making sure to take it very, very slow. EDIT: Also, Shannon has posted here to much and made me feel a hell of a lot better about telling the girl that I don't want to be friends/know her anymore. Thank you for that, really. :hug: Awwww your welcome. ((hugs)) to you too, my dear. Yeah NEVER be a back up plan to this girl.Aand I'm afraid that is what she wanted you for. You don't deserve to be treated that way and SHE doesn't deserve to have you in her life. Period. It was good you told her it wasn't going to happen. Us, dumpees have to be strong when it comes to the dumpers because they will walk all over you. They know what to say to make us have hope. Believe me, I know. My 8 year ex was just like that. He wanted vistation of the dog, to be in contact, to be friends etc. etc. I told him to go f*ck himself and I'm glad I did. It helped me move on from his stupid f*cking @ss.
ShannonMI Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 Its okay really, I like talking about it with you since I cant talk about it with anyone else (or dont want to, rather). I was ABSOLUTELY compassionate during the relationship. Even after everything she said i was an amazing boyfriend and person and that it just didnt work out, blah blah blah. I did everything i could for this girl, in the most romantic ways possible, and waited on her hand and foot (she is quite spoiled, and i spoiled her too with love, intimacy and everything else). She said that my lack of compassion was not forgiving her and understanding why she slept with somebody else repeatedly while I was away. She said I should understand that I left her lonely and she was vulnerable, and the other guy was just there to "comfort" her while I was gone. I skyped her every day, all day, sent pictures videos, and twice sent a $150 vase of flowers to her... she tied the flowers i sent to her bed and then slept with the other guy a few nights later. It is morally disgusting, in my opinion. My abroad experience was, sadly, largely spent trying to make sure she was okay.What a mistake. Wow this girl is such a bitch. Why should you show her compassion in any way, shape or form after what she did? Talk about selfish. And it was your fault that she didn't have enough self control to keep her pussy in her pants while you were away? Unreal. The girl is an @sshole. Hey at least you tried to forgive her and move on from it. That's being compassionate I suppose. Giving her another chance or at least attempting to. That's more then a lot of people would do. I personally would have told her to go sh*t in her hat from the moment she confessed to cheating. There would have been no "healing together" or forgiving. No f*cking way. Once you break that trust, it's over. And there is no "lets be friends" with people like this. You need to break all ties and get them out of your life.
Author LoveBear22 Posted October 26, 2011 Author Posted October 26, 2011 (edited) Wow this girl is such a bitch. Why should you show her compassion in any way, shape or form after what she did? Talk about selfish. And it was your fault that she didn't have enough self control to keep her pussy in her pants while you were away? Unreal. The girl is an @sshole. Hey at least you tried to forgive her and move on from it. That's being compassionate I suppose. Giving her another chance or at least attempting to. That's more then a lot of people would do. I personally would have told her to go sh*t in her hat from the moment she confessed to cheating. There would have been no "healing together" or forgiving. No f*cking way. Once you break that trust, it's over. And there is no "lets be friends" with people like this. You need to break all ties and get them out of your life. Yeah. This is the only reason why I don't think I was the backup plan initially though, he was her secondary source of admiration. She needs constant admiration (she would read me emails she got from teachers praising her for her work...she wouldn't let me say no to listening to them), and I certainly gave her plenty of that and affection and perfect stroking of her ego. She tried for about 2 months to regain my trust and confidence by an array of gifts lies and such, but said she was miserable (because it became long distance, and I was still mad at her about it, and the perfect ego stroking had ended--she needs to be mirrored as an innocent and wonderful girl) and thus went to the next ready thing who had no reason to be mad. THEN I became her backup plan, and I refused to fill the part. She is, simply, a self centered narcissistic girl with no moral compass or real empathy or caring for others--but when we were good I did love and give everything to her that I could, I wanted to be the best boyfriend I could be to the end and I think I did do that, even though she actually thinks that other people would've reacted better to what she did. She is foolish. Good riddance, she will see how the new guy reacts to her inability to keep her legs together and be faithful. I doubt he would like seeing that she has messaged me already about how much she still thinks about how good it was before I found out everything. What a team of tools. No mas. PS: She truly, deep down believes that she is a very good person, and if you don't think so because of this story it is because you don't understand her or the situation she was in. YOU don't get it. EDIT: I also do realize that I was pretty shallow for dating this girl for so long, there were many other red flags that I let go. But what can I say... like 3 6 Mafia once said... pussy got ya hooked. Edited October 26, 2011 by LoveBear22
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