SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 She says the way he reacted to her cheating was a huge turn off, This is the part which probably assures that she is in it for the here and now for herself, and that you can partake in all of the 'sizzle' that is her aura for as long as you abide by her whims, and keep allowing her to walk all over you should she opt to cheat at some point. When the last guy stood up to her after her cheating, she didn't like it, and consequently they're no longer together. If you like living that way, then keep getting all the *candy* you can harvest from her. I hope it isn't too sweet.
SingleinSouth Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 If you like living that way, then keep getting all the *candy* you can harvest from her. I hope it isn't too sweet. Let's hope it doesn't come with any viruses, huh SOG?
linwood Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 Please answer this question without bias or judgement... ill love you guys forever for your advice. Anyway, what do you think? THANK YOU!! The only real problem I have is her job and the fact that she seems to like to have a good time. I`m not sure I could trust any woman enough to have her gone the entire week on her own in a different city. You`ve been going at it for 4 months why not just keep at it and see where it goes?
Author LoveBear22 Posted October 22, 2011 Author Posted October 22, 2011 The only real problem I have is her job and the fact that she seems to like to have a good time. I`m not sure I could trust any woman enough to have her gone the entire week on her own in a different city. You`ve been going at it for 4 months why not just keep at it and see where it goes? I am keeping at it, and it feels very nice I am just asking what might happen in the long run, obviously its fun now but wanted to know if she is going to crush my heart later on. This is my second relationship btw, my first lasted 8 years through HS and some of college. EDIT: Again, I already am quite emotionally invested in this girl.
Imajerk17 Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 (edited) Thank you for your thoughtful and well articulated response, sir. It is much appreciated. I am not paying for her when we see each other, we split all costs right down the middle, but she likes eating out and having fun so obviously that isn't cheap, especially where I live. Flight costs going out to her house, she pays for half of that too. So, its not awful, but obviously travel does cost money and one weekend (her birthday weekend) I spent about 1,500 on her going out and going to a club. My income is about 20-30k a year right now, I do freelance work. But i live under the family roof still (fresh outta college) EDIT: I want to thank all that have commented so far, whether short or long regardless of what you say. I am surprised people on the internet actually give enough of a **** to say something and express what they think about somebody else's situation, and even though I may be in the wrong in some ways it is comforting that somebody cares to give me some insight. Let me get this straight.... you live at home under your parent's roof, but you still spent over half a month of your pay, for a night in the club for your girlfriend? If I was your dad I'd biatch-slap you. Edited October 22, 2011 by Imajerk17
OnyxSnowfall Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Hope that helps. I know none of this is morally very attractive... but thank you for your assistance guys. The girl is super charming and very intelligent but clearly also a bit materialistic... anyway she is hard to resist, trust me I haven't read the other responses that came after this post of yours, but clearly, this is certainly the epitome of a charming and very intelligent person: He even apologized for yelling at her because she claimed that he yelled so much that it was just as bad as her doing the actual cheating... Seriously?!?! Unbelievable............... Yelling cannot convey even a fraction of how horrible betrayal can feel... it comes no where as close to expressing that hurt, and that she was "turned off" by his pain speaks volumes of her lack of "character". As does the rest of what you've written. Sadly, I think you've woven your own peril here. I hope you are able to learn from it.
Imajerk17 Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Seriously, a QUALITY girl would be thrilled with you planning something inexpensive but thoughtful for her birthday, AND she would rather that you be saving that 1500 for your own place or your savings or whatever. Couldn't you make dinner at her place and buy her something small and thoughtful? She is a skank. And YOU are a chump.
Author LoveBear22 Posted October 22, 2011 Author Posted October 22, 2011 (edited) Seriously, a QUALITY girl would be thrilled with you planning something inexpensive but thoughtful for her birthday, AND she would rather that you be saving that 1500 for your own place or your savings or whatever. Couldn't you make dinner at her place and buy her something small and thoughtful? She is a skank. And YOU are a chump. It was really about 1500 over the course of the weekend. We make dinner together some weekends, she is a great cook and loves to show it off. Its one of her ways of showing love, she says. You might be right, but I just don't know yet. I am not denying that I might be a huge chump in the future, I am trying to figure that out and make the right choice obviously. If you met this girl, you would never suspect that she would be capable of doing wrong. She is very cute, perfect body, very sweet and seems very innocent and giggly... but a total freak in bed. It is hard to resist, call me a dick but it is what it is. EDIT: One of the biggest things that I dont get is why she didnt leave him for me if she says now that she feels such incredible chemistry between us and such. And also, I must admit, her ex treated her pretty well... the gold silver painting thing he gave her from when he went abroad thats in her room is pretty absurd. I dont know. Edited October 22, 2011 by LoveBear22
simpsonic Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 (edited) If you met this girl, you would never suspect that she would be capable of doing wrong. She is very cute, perfect body, very sweet and seems very innocent and giggly... but a total freak in bed. It is hard to resist, call me a dick but it is what it is. EDIT: One of the biggest things that I dont get is why she didnt leave him for me if she says now that she feels such incredible chemistry between us and such. And also, I must admit, her ex treated her pretty well... the gold silver painting thing he gave her from when he went abroad thats in her room is pretty absurd. I dont know. Easy, she wanted to have her cake and eat it too. This girl is a wolf in sheep's clothing. She has you under her spell. Edited October 22, 2011 by simpsonic
ivalm Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 It was really about 1500 over the course of the weekend. We make dinner together some weekends, she is a great cook and loves to show it off. Its one of her ways of showing love, she says. You might be right, but I just don't know yet. I am not denying that I might be a huge chump in the future, I am trying to figure that out and make the right choice obviously. If you met this girl, you would never suspect that she would be capable of doing wrong. She is very cute, perfect body, very sweet and seems very innocent and giggly... but a total freak in bed. It is hard to resist, call me a dick but it is what it is. EDIT: One of the biggest things that I dont get is why she didnt leave him for me if she says now that she feels such incredible chemistry between us and such. And also, I must admit, her ex treated her pretty well... the gold silver painting thing he gave her from when he went abroad thats in her room is pretty absurd. I dont know. I hope you realize that she probably has ALREADY cheated on you several times? Just making sure you know, because you seem pretty ignorant. At any rate, condoms/safe sex is a must. Since most people don't use barriers for oral, you may have contracted some bugs already, hopefully not HIV, but maybe. These things take a few months to develop, so be sure to test regularly. For example, if you learn of your HIV infection early, it may be maintained, making it more of a chronic disease.
Woggle Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 If you trust this woman you deserve everything you get.
thatcatlady67 Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Before long, you will be the miserable ex-boyfriend while she moves on to the next victim / BBD. Remember her ex's pain and anguish when you told him. Eventually you will realize your own version of hell with this girl. She has given you a preview. People's basic natures just don't change. No matter what happens, I really, really hope you are practicing safe sex with this person.
delurk Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 (edited) I am surprised people on the internet actually give enough of a **** to say something and express what they think about somebody else's situation You kidding? People on the internet love expressing their opinions about other peoples' situations. Some spend most of their time doing just that. Anyway, despite the questionable start, it sounds like you're having a lot of fun with this girl right now - and realistically, regardless of what anyone here says, you'll probably continue to see her for at least a while to come. (No pun intended.) So my advice, for what it's worth, is to enjoy it for now - as you'll no doubt do anyway. The chances that it'll last the distance realistically seem fairly slim, but I think you realise that. I would just keep two things in mind: 1. Take a step back and think how much you're really willing to spend on this girl, and don't go beyond your limits. To put it bluntly, no girl is cute enough - and no sex is good enough - to warrant bankrupting yourself. In particular, the $1500 you spent over one weekend seems a bit overkill - especially given your income - but I think (hope) you realised that already. 2. Use protection, every time. For your own sake. Four months into a relationship with a girl you know had... rather questionable... morals in the recent past isn't the time to be risking things. That's about all I guess. If you're going to keep seeing her (and it seems clear you will), all I can say is have fun. Try not to get too invested while the red flags are still on the horizon - although of course that's far easier said than done. Edited October 22, 2011 by delurk
Author LoveBear22 Posted October 22, 2011 Author Posted October 22, 2011 You kidding? People on the internet love expressing their opinions about other peoples' situations. Some spend most of their time doing just that. Anyway, despite the questionable start, it sounds like you're having a lot of fun with this girl right now - and realistically, regardless of what anyone here says, you'll probably continue to see her for at least a while to come. (No pun intended.) So my advice, for what it's worth, is to enjoy it for now - as you'll no doubt do anyway. The chances that it'll last the distance realistically seem fairly slim, but I think you realise that. I would just keep two things in mind: 1. Take a step back and think how much you're really willing to spend on this girl, and don't go beyond your limits. To put it bluntly, no girl is cute enough - and no sex is good enough - to warrant bankrupting yourself. In particular, the $1500 you spent over one weekend seems a bit overkill - especially given your income - but I think (hope) you realised that already. 2. Use protection, every time. For your own sake. Four months into a relationship with a girl you know had... rather questionable... morals in the recent past isn't the time to be risking things. That's about all I guess. If you're going to keep seeing her (and it seems clear you will), all I can say is have fun. Try not to get too invested while the red flags are still on the horizon - although of course that's far easier said than done. We never use protection, she hates condoms. I come inside of her every time we have sex.
ShannonMI Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Thank you for your thoughtful and well articulated response, sir. It is much appreciated. I am not paying for her when we see each other, we split all costs right down the middle, but she likes eating out and having fun so obviously that isn't cheap, especially where I live. Flight costs going out to her house, she pays for half of that too. So, its not awful, but obviously travel does cost money and one weekend (her birthday weekend)I spent about 1,500 on her going out and going to a club. My income is about 20-30k a year right now, I do freelance work. But i live under the family roof still (fresh outta college) EDIT: I want to thank all that have commented so far, whether short or long regardless of what you say. I am surprised people on the internet actually give enough of a **** to say something and express what they think about somebody else's situation, and even though I may be in the wrong in some ways it is comforting that somebody cares to give me some insight. Ever heard of the phrase "door mat"? You and this girl's ex are door mats. She obviously has no issue with you spending a ridiculous amount of money on her. I would NEVER allow a guy to spend that kind of money on me, unless we had been together a long time or if he was loaded. Even then, I would feel uncomfortable. Spending that much money on a birthday for a girl you haven't been dating for all that long is absurd. Unless you are rolling in the dough, you shouldn't be spending that much on her. So the girl is a skank and a user. Wow what a catch. I'd move on if I were you.
ShannonMI Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 We never use protection, she hates condoms. I come inside of her every time we have sex. Has she been tested for STD's? And have you seen proof that she's been tested? I wouldn't trust this girl's snatch. No way, no how. Not to be rude, but God only knows where she's been. Is she at least on birth control so you don't get her knocked up?
ShannonMI Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 The only real problem I have is her job and the fact that she seems to like to have a good time. I`m not sure I could trust any woman enough to have her gone the entire week on her own in a different city. You`ve been going at it for 4 months why not just keep at it and see where it goes? Is she a hooker or a stripper?
Woggle Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Even the women here aren't siding with her so that should tell you something.
ShannonMI Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Even the women here aren't siding with her so that should tell you something. Yeah she sounds like a whore. I can't stand girls like her because I've dealt with girls like this personally, so I'm being extra harsh.
OnyxSnowfall Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Even the women here aren't siding with her so that should tell you something. "even"? Lol.
Author LoveBear22 Posted October 22, 2011 Author Posted October 22, 2011 (edited) Has she been tested for STD's? And have you seen proof that she's been tested? I wouldn't trust this girl's snatch. No way, no how. Not to be rude, but God only knows where she's been. Is she at least on birth control so you don't get her knocked up? I believe she has, and she hasn't been with anybody except her ex and myself recently. Yes she is on birth control, obviously. She said if anything ever happened she would obviously "take care of it". She works in finance. Her vagina is very tight. I don't think that she would cheat since we see each other every week. She was away from her ex for 3 weeks before she cheated with me, and it was obvious that she was really attracted to my swag. EDIT: She is very confident and to be honest, pretty spoiled. Her parents bought her a mercedes when she turned 20 for getting good grades and a diamond ring, things of that nature. Edited October 22, 2011 by LoveBear22
ShannonMI Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 I believe she has, and she hasn't been with anybody except her ex and myself recently. Yes she is on birth control, obviously. She said if anything ever happened she would obviously "take care of it". She works in finance. Her vagina is very tight. I don't think that she would cheat since we see each other every week. She was away from her ex for 3 weeks before she cheated with me, and it was obvious that she was really attracted to my swag. EDIT: She is very confident and to be honest, pretty spoiled. Her parents bought her a mercedes when she turned 20 for getting good grades and a diamond ring, things of that nature. What does the tightness of her pussy have to do with anything? You think because she's tight, she hasn't been plowed by many, many dicks? Believe me, even women that have had children can be super tight. Let's not be naive here:rolleyes: And you "believe" she's been tested for STD's? Oh boy, so you don't know for sure. Who knows if you and her ex are the only ones she's been with recently. From her track record, she isn't exactly a loyal, faithful girlfriend. Sounds like she's used to being pampered and spoiled. Doesn't mean you aren't a door mat. She must expect this type of spoiling behavior from men and everyone else and that's why she's got no problem with you spending boat loads of cash on her. Ugh! The more I hear about this girl, the more I don't like her. No matter how much SWAG you claim to have, girl is gonna cheat on your @ss.
Woggle Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 "even"? Lol. 9 times out of 10 women side with women no matter what. The fact that women can't find a reason to defend this should tell the OP poster something.
Author LoveBear22 Posted October 22, 2011 Author Posted October 22, 2011 What does the tightness of her pussy have to do with anything? You think because she's tight, she hasn't been plowed by many, many dicks? Believe me, even women that have had children can be super tight. Let's not be naive here:rolleyes: And you "believe" she's been tested for STD's? Oh boy, so you don't know for sure. Who knows if you and her ex are the only ones she's been with recently. From her track record, she isn't exactly a loyal, faithful girlfriend. Sounds like she's used to being pampered and spoiled. Doesn't mean you aren't a door mat. She must expect this type of spoiling behavior from men and everyone else and that's why she's got no problem with you spending boat loads of cash on her. Ugh! The more I hear about this girl, the more I don't like her. No matter how much SWAG you claim to have, girl is gonna cheat on your @ss. I know for sure she has been tested. And yes, she probably is pretty used to being spoiled, but she spoils me with incredible sex every time i see her. We literally keep having sex until our bits are sore because we dont during the week. She apparently is like this with every boyfriend, i assume, and its pretty spectacular. Very cuddly too. You really don't think that I was just so good that she couldn't resist, and that she will be loyal to me? Im a pretty confident guy and I think she is obviously attracted more than she would be to other finance guys who she works with. Again, could this be a rebound relationship? It did start while she was still upset about her ex.
missed_theboat Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Wow- I didn't know this sort of thing happened in real life. I thought this was the stuff of trashy tv shows. Really-this girl has insecurity issues, and does not give two ****s about HERSELF or other people for that matter. I was in love with a man who didn't please me, so I told him to his face that I felt unsatisfied in our relationship. Did that make me a bitch? Maybe... but I sure as hell put it out there so he wouldn't be under a false impression. I would never have cheated on him--would have rather told him than break his heart like that. Even if it broke his heart to know I wasn't interested anymore, at least he didn't have to find out that some other dude plowed me. I guess you are not concerned about infidelity, considering you are the one who did it. Yeah that's fine, but to actually date the woman after that? Woah....what makes you any different than her ex, besides that you are "wise" to her ways, and feel like you're her confidant now that you've committed this sexy affair together? Well, as for not using protection, I will never understand that... never. So many insecure women who don't give a **** about themselves. Nevermind that you don't know what she has, she doesn't know what you have. I mean not saying you have anything, but before I ever had sex without protection (for the first time with my ex-bf) we both went to get tested and I got on Birth control. It's a huge trust thing for me, because I don't want just any random Joe coming in me. Whew. That's a personal preference, I guess--but it saddens me to know how much people spread crap around because of their lack of self-respect. And as for her pussy being tight. Um, yeah my vagina is tight too... and I've had some significant sex in my day. My vagina is so tight that my boyfriend's penis had to fit in there almost each time. It never stretched out even in the year we were together. Vaginas do not stretch with penis--sex. It's about having a child--but even then, the vagina often comes back to its state with time. Loose vagina does not equal harlot.
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