ThePhantom14 Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 Any help would be most appreicated I had been dating a girl long distance for 6 months now. She would not commit to me. I have been wanting to for over 3 months but she cant. The first 3 months were amazing...At around 3 months she started dating another guy and when I found out it crushed me. I become really jealous and needy. I am normally not like this. She ended it with the other guy because he was liar but ever since then she has not been acting the same. Not affectionate or anything. I should have known right there but I kept it going thinking she would change. Yesterday, I had had enough so I told her that if she couldnt make a committment then we shouldn't talk. But I really did this to see how she would react and to see if not contacting her would make her miss me. She said there is no way should come running back but we will see. She was crying but I didn't budge. I said, if you are ready for a relationship then call me otherwise I am done. I hung up and she called me 3 times and sent me a long text blaming me for everything. But I read that if I layed off for 3 weeks or so, she would come back to me, cus I stopped being her whipping boy. Did I do the right thing?
wilsonx Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 But I really did this to see how she would react and to see if not contacting her would make her miss me. This is actually wrong, I was going to say you did the right thing then I saw this. This is called emotional abuse/manipulation. If she does not want a relationship with you, either be her friend or find someone that does want a relationship with you. What you did was flat out wrong in the context of this and I hope she does not come back. Her long text of things you did wrong, add this to it and grow up
Author ThePhantom14 Posted October 21, 2011 Author Posted October 21, 2011 This is actually wrong, I was going to say you did the right thing then I saw this. This is called emotional abuse/manipulation. If she does not want a relationship with you, either be her friend or find someone that does want a relationship with you. What you did was flat out wrong in the context of this and I hope she does not come back. Her long text of things you did wrong, add this to it and grow up What i should have said was that she is still deciding if she wants to be in a relationship. She keeps telling me, She doesn't know. For 3 months now. She told me she really really really likes me but cannot say yes just yet. I respect your opinion but I was tired of waiting around.
wilsonx Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 Then honestly move on and stop waiting around. Shes not ready, you are, find someone that is ready that you enjoy spending time with an go forth there. But again your reasoning to make her miss you is WRONG and selfish. If she doesnt want to be in a relationship right now, she doesn't have to thats her right she does not need to be manipulated by a "friend" or someone she considered a friend
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