4N0NYM0U5 Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 Okay, so... A while ago K asked me to homecoming. I said yes. (At the time I was a wuss. I wouldn't have thought I would have had a chance at anyone else. I wouldn't say no to something like that! ) She's both really pretty and really smart, but at the moment I really don't think of her as anything more than a friend. I didn't really holler it out to everyone since it was kind of early. First of all, let me give you a little background. For a year and a half I've had a crush on M. She's really beautiful and pretty smart too. We're friends, but nothing more than that. It's like the exact opposite of what's going on between me and K feelings-wise, except nothing's happening. Over time, things have happened. Multiple (female) people I knew started being really nice to me and made it kind of obvious both that they wanted me to ask them to homecoming, ("Don't leave me alone! Let me walk with you!" etc etc) especially someone named C. Just recently, C has found out I'm already going to homecoming with someone. She was rather surprised, but seemed to get the impression I really liked her or something. She clearly wasn't interested in anything more than homecoming with me (she immediately started paying less attention to me afterwards) but it still seems like she's trying to juggle between me and asking someone else to homecoming, I guess because she thinks asking someone else or ignoring me would hurt my feelings or something. Meanwhile, homecoming is looming ever-so-closer and I feel like I myself am not paying enough attention to K. She asked me recently if I was still in it for homecoming, which means either she thinks I don't care about her or she's found someone else and was hoping I would say no. It worries me. How can I fix this, for both M, K, and C? I feel like M is the only thing standing between me and K. (Sorry to use just letters for names; I'm paranoid )
Lucky_One Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 There's nothing to fix with C. She wanted a date, and she found out that you already have one. No harm, no foul. There's nothing with M to come between you and K. You are friends with her and no more. You are friends with K and no more. Tell K that of course you are still on for Homecoming, and that you are excited. Have fun. High school can really have some great times!
ChessPieceFace Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 (Sorry to use just letters for names; I'm paranoid ) If you were REALLY paranoid, you'd have used something like Z, Q and X. - You said C was only interested in you as a date for homecoming, so stop worrying about her. - You gave no indication that any event or progress had happened with M, just that "you like her." - You already said yes to K. Where is the dilemma? That you want our approval to chase after your 'love' M after already promising another girl your hand at homecoming? I would never give you that. Go with K and have a great time. That is correct for all of the following reasons: - You won't be trashing some girl's heart just to chase after another girl. Breaking a date for homecoming or prom is almost as bad as cheating on someone, in my view. - M might (stress might) actually see you as date-worthy just by you being there with another girl and showing her a good time. And if not, you'll know better whether K is a good match for you.
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