jswefff Posted May 18, 2004 Posted May 18, 2004 Hi everyone I've been dating my girl for about about 6 months and what not we live about 2 hours away from each other I see her pretty much every weekend. Well about 2 months ago her ex started talking to her after cheatin on her and calling her a slut and s$ well after they started talking he started saying how much he wants her back and everything and stuff and lets say I got kind of mad. Well I asked her whats up one day and she just got back from doctors and everything ( she goes to a pyciatrist ) ok and I guess the guy or girl made her do this little quiz thing over relationships and when she took it I guess she marked a bit more for him and less for me I was kind of hit hard and then about 3 weeks ago she tells me in the car she misses him a lot and he's been writting to her love letters and stuff I guess he also sent her a pic of his dorm room and it was covered in nothing but pics of her and he also has letters from her and its been over 2 years I'm just wondering what the hell do I do I kind of asked her not to talk to him cause of what he is doing and since he pretty much made her cut herself I really don't want to loose her but what do you think I should do.
SoleMate Posted May 18, 2004 Posted May 18, 2004 You can't make her do anything, but if I were you, knowing feminine psychology as I do, I would make it clear that if she is not committed to you, enough to turn away the attentions of this ex, then you can't be in her life. Whatever you do, don't let her enjoy the drama of "Torn between two lovers"! Does she have the smarts to turn down someone who treated her badly? (Although, let's be real - I am sure you don't know the whole truth of her relationship with him. There were probably good moments.) So, don't let her play you. Be polite and fair, but firm. If you want a 1-man woman, that's what you have to insist on.
nikkilove Posted May 18, 2004 Posted May 18, 2004 I totally agree with Solemate. Don't get angry, beg or plead for your relationship to work out.......say you won't put up with it, and then back off! She'll get the hint and figure out if it's worth ruining her relationship with you to be with someone who treated her so badly........and you know what? If she does go back with the ex, better sooner, than later..........her having strung you along all this time! You call the shots as far as what you will put up with and what you won't! People only treat you the way you allow them to, so you can't allow this kind of nonsense and drama. Best!
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