randy90631 Posted October 20, 2011 Posted October 20, 2011 Hey people, I met this girl on a online dating website. I've been on four dates with a girl that I see a lot of potential in. We have a lot in common and we got some good chemistry going. Physically, we've gone a little past making out. I have no set agenda of actually having sex with her, if it happens than it happens. This last date we went on she paid for lunch. I was very surprised. So far I've taking the lead and planned all the dates, including the one at her house tomorrow night. So far the signs are saying that she's interested in me. One clear one is that she said that she usually only gives a guy three dates and if she isn't feeling it, then "bye bye!" I have no problem taking the lead and initiating stuff, but I think it's her turn. I'm thinking that I should take a one step back and let her take the initiative to call me/text me to setup our next date. That's only if she doesn't suggest that I stay the night at her house tomorrow. What do you guys think?
oaks Posted October 20, 2011 Posted October 20, 2011 What do you guys think? Your idea sounds very close to 'playing games' of which I disapprove. There's nothing wrong with wishing that she would initiate or plan a future date, but perhaps you can find a better way of communicating this desire to her.
orion1010 Posted October 20, 2011 Posted October 20, 2011 Your idea sounds very close to 'playing games' of which I disapprove. There's nothing wrong with wishing that she would initiate or plan a future date, but perhaps you can find a better way of communicating this desire to her. I agree. too much like games. Plus if you pull back so early she may get the wrong message. Keep doing what you're doing until you are able to communicate to her that you would like to get to know her better by asking her to pick the next date doing something she likes.
azsinglegal Posted October 20, 2011 Posted October 20, 2011 Test time? Really? LOL I'd dump you in a second if I found out this was your thinking. Agree with the above posteres - games are ridiculous.
Cypress25 Posted October 20, 2011 Posted October 20, 2011 I think she already took the initiative by paying for lunch on your last date. That shows that she doesn't expect you to do everything and she's willing to pull her weight. So I don't understand your motivation for testing her at this point. It will only confuse her and hurt her feelings. If you stop asking her out now, she'll assume you're no longer interested.
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