daphne Posted October 20, 2011 Posted October 20, 2011 I've been working late and I haven't been meeting new people at all. Last night after reading the thread about Do women avoid settling as women get older, I had a rare freak out that I'll be single forever and browsed on match. Found a guy, conservative, age appropriate, stable and boring looking like I like 'em and logged in just to see what he was like. Well, apparently the site unhides your profile too and now I have a lot of emails and winks. So... do I jump back in that mess again? It was a lot of work before, from what I remember. And the most I got out of it was a guy with anger issues and a noble hatred of Walmart. I will admit, that the attention was pretty nice. But I don't want to pay for attention.
oaks Posted October 20, 2011 Posted October 20, 2011 And the most I got out of it was a guy with anger issues and a noble hatred of Walmart. I will admit, that the attention was pretty nice. But I don't want to pay for attention. So, some good came from it.
Author daphne Posted October 20, 2011 Author Posted October 20, 2011 So, some good came from it. I don't have a noble hatred of it. I was being ironic. Holy crap. I have an inbox of emails/winks/whatever. I saw 2 that are actually interesting looking. I may have to do another trial and see how I feel. hmm.
cerridwen Posted October 20, 2011 Posted October 20, 2011 I don't have a noble hatred of it. I was being ironic. Holy crap. I have an inbox of emails/winks/whatever. I saw 2 that are actually interesting looking. I may have to do another trial and see how I feel. hmm. Go for at least the 2, daphne. A toe into the water.
oaks Posted October 20, 2011 Posted October 20, 2011 Holy crap. I have an inbox of emails/winks/whatever. I saw 2 that are actually interesting looking. I may have to do another trial and see how I feel. hmm. Yay! Good luck! Things seem to be going well with the woman I'm dating, so I've just hidden/disabled my profiles.
Cee Posted October 20, 2011 Posted October 20, 2011 That older woman thread freaked me out too and I'm in a relationship. I was tempted to post on it, but I didn't. This is what I think. There isn't a man shortage at all. It's just when women age, they become more selective about a man not being drunk, emotionally stunted, or a player. I don't think the pool shrinks that much, but our eyesight is keener. We notice incompatibility quicker and don't settle for sub-par relating. You know what I mean? I don't think there's anything wrong at all with online dating, but don't do it how I did. I went on too many dates and it ended up feeling like fast food - completely disposable. I suggest you pace yourself and try to date one man at a time. Or maybe talk to one and date another. Happy hunting.
Author daphne Posted October 20, 2011 Author Posted October 20, 2011 Go for at least the 2, daphne. A toe into the water. Thinking about it. Feeling a little less enthused than the first time around. Yay! Good luck! Things seem to be going well with the woman I'm dating, so I've just hidden/disabled my profiles. Congratulations, you lucky dog. How long have you two been dating? Do you think you have what it takes as a couple, or just feeling your way through it? Glad to hear it. You've really been working at it, and deserve it. That older woman thread freaked me out too and I'm in a relationship. I was tempted to post on it, but I didn't. This is what I think. There isn't a man shortage at all. It's just when women age, they become more selective about a man not being drunk, emotionally stunted, or a player. I don't think the pool shrinks that much, but our eyesight is keener. We notice incompatibility quicker and don't settle for sub-par relating. You know what I mean? I don't think there's anything wrong at all with online dating, but don't do it how I did. I went on too many dates and it ended up feeling like fast food - completely disposable. I suggest you pace yourself and try to date one man at a time. Or maybe talk to one and date another. Happy hunting. lol. Yeah, it was like "wait, my options are gone at precisely my 30th birthday?" There's a lot of truth to the idea, however, if I'm willing to date older I know I have my pick. The problem is that guys in their 40's are jowly, out of shape, and have a lot of baggage. Oy. Guys in their late 30's are a lot more fun in general. I agree to a certain extent that our standards become more defined, and with that you weed out more people. But I think it cuts both ways. There are plenty of guys that may not weed you out due to age, but may not get serious because he's holding out for the 20 something. I know and have met plenty of men who aren't this way. But I've met a ton who are. Shoot, I got guys in their 50's and 60's emailing me online. What the crap? Some have as early as their 20's that they'd date. That's insane. I'm definitely not going to engage in full out dating warfare this time. It's too time consuming, and too much energy for someone that you don't know if it's going to work out. I'd prefer a light, quick coffee date and if we wnat to see each other again, then maybe go to the effort. Also, the first time around I learned a lot about how to figure out what the guys are looking for, and if we're compatible. A lot of priceless information that will hopefully save me more time this go around. And if the photos aren't terribly clear, next. He's hiding something.
oaks Posted October 20, 2011 Posted October 20, 2011 Congratulations, you lucky dog. How long have you two been dating? Do you think you have what it takes as a couple, or just feeling your way through it? Glad to hear it. You've really been working at it, and deserve it. Thanks. It's only been a month and about half a dozen dates so far, so too early to tell if we can call this a relationship, but far enough along that I'm not interested in seeing anyone else right now. Guys in their late 30's are a lot more fun in general. Yes, we are.
Author daphne Posted October 21, 2011 Author Posted October 21, 2011 Thanks. It's only been a month and about half a dozen dates so far, so too early to tell if we can call this a relationship, but far enough along that I'm not interested in seeing anyone else right now. Yes, we are. I knew with your well adjusted attitude that you'd find someone. If not this one, someone else is going to snap you up. Keep me updated. It's nice to hear good, drama free stories in this place.
Author daphne Posted October 21, 2011 Author Posted October 21, 2011 Oh boy. I have a live one. Cute French speaking Canadian, played college tennis and works in Finance. Now if he's conservative we have a keeper. I'm sticking to my plan of drinks/coffee though.
oaks Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 Oh boy. I have a live one. Cute French speaking Canadian, played college tennis and works in Finance. Now if he's conservative we have a keeper. I'm sticking to my plan of drinks/coffee though. Sounds promising. Good luck!
oaks Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 I knew with your well adjusted attitude that you'd find someone. If not this one, someone else is going to snap you up. Keep me updated. It's nice to hear good, drama free stories in this place. There's enough drama in this place that I don't need to create any extra. We have our first date not in a public place this weekend - she's coming here. I'll have to see if I can remember how to cook for more than one person.
FitChick Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 It's just when women age, they become more selective about a man not being drunk, emotionally stunted, or a player. I don't think the pool shrinks that much, but our eyesight is keener. Must be the cataract surgery.
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