7seas Posted May 18, 2004 Posted May 18, 2004 Greetings everyone, this is my first post. I was scouring the internet searching for answers to my situation when I stumbled upon this site. I have read alot already, and have decided that it is time to share my situation. I would appreciate all the help I can get. So. About a year ago, I met the love of my life online nontheless. After two weeks we finally met in person, and I got lucky - she turned out to be beautiful. She is about 4 years younger than me - only 19, still in school, and still growing up. Two weeks after we met, I was in a really bad car accident. She stayed by my side and nursed me back to health. This girl is amazing - funny, smart, gorgeous, caring, open minded and determined. I can definately see myself with her for the rest of my days, and would love to father her children. I have never met anyone who can even remotely compare to her. Here is the problem: She has always wanted to be a Marine. She was on an ROTC scholorship at one of our Nations leading Universities, however just recently discovered that she did not maintain the grades to keep her scholorship. Three things may happen: A.) She will be let off and not owe the Corp a dime. B.) She will have to pay the Corp back. C.) She will have to give the Marine Corp her time as compensation for the two years she has spent in college (she signed the papers last semester saying they had this right). To make it worse, she recently revealed to me that she may simply join the reserves following this summer - taking the chance that she'll either have to go off to War, or get to go back to school in Januarary. She has expressed to me that she loves me and wants to have my babies later on down the road, and I do beleive her. I honestly do want her to. The thing is, she's only 19. She's still has some growing up to do, and some things to learn. I want to stand by her and support her, but I am having a terribly tough time doing so given her situation. Then there is me. I have known that she'd be signing up for the Marines - but I didn't expect it to be now. I have been preparing myself for it to happen in two years time - and even then I know it wouldn't be easy. So do I wait for her and commit myself to her, drop what i'm doing to be with her - stand by her through it all? Or, do I say God Bless, let her get on with her life, and pursue the rest of mine? If anyone has any opinion at all on my situation, I would really like to hear it. Also, if any of you know anything about being a husband on a military base, I would love to hear about that as well. Even a glimpse into the life of a female Marine would be appreciated.
aguy Posted May 18, 2004 Posted May 18, 2004 Regarding the post above, I'm not oppossed to the Marine thing at all.
ladyangel Posted May 19, 2004 Posted May 19, 2004 In answer to your original questions, it all depends on how much you love her -- whether you can live the rest of your life without her and be happy. It's a personal decision you have to make based on your own feelings.
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