Cypress25 Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 You may feel that way but to a man that is like saying "Hey you are qualified for the job but we can't hire you and we will hire someone and tell you all about it". It would be really insensitive to talk about the guy you're dating with the guy you rejected. That's not what women mean when they say "Let's just be friends." They have female friends to talk to about that kind of stuff. Some men mistake the friend zone as that shred of hope of it changing in their favor That's their own fault. "Let's just be friends" is not code for "Try a little harder and then ask me out again." It's a very clear way of saying "I don't want to date you." I don't think women are trying to mislead men with the friend zone. I pissed a woman off once by asking her how many of these "male friends" became turned into a relationship. I'm sure the answer was zero. And what's wrong with that? Male friends are not supposed to become boyfriends. That's why these "how do I get out of the friend zone" threads are ridiculous. If you're in the friend zone, you're probably there for life. No one ever promised that being friends with a woman would lead to a relationship. So either be her friend or don't, but stop hitting on her. She's already made up her mind. She had no answer and on top of that she was one of those women that are very manipulative. Its these type of women that take a friend zone which could be a possibly rewarding friendship given certain circumstances and make it bad for all women. Just like certain men that make it bad for all men. I wouldn't suggest pursuing anything with a manipulative person. It's not possible to have a healthy friendship or relationship with someone like that.
joystickd Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 I have had that terrible friend zone experience. I opt out because of that. I had some very unpleasent experiences with women that gave me serious issues at one point. Therapy helped but the day I just quit giving a s**t about friend zone or relationships and focused on my desires things changed and I am the happiest I have been in years. I bang married women, cougars, etc. its all fun for me and no friend zone lol.
joystickd Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 I'm sure the answer was zero. And what's wrong with that? Male friends are not supposed to become boyfriends. That's why these "how do I get out of the friend zone" threads are ridiculous. If you're in the friend zone, you're probably there for life. No one ever promised that being friends with a woman would lead to a relationship. So either be her friend or don't, but stop hitting on her. She's already made up her mind. There are guys that due to lack of experience do not understand that concept so those type of threads have some type of relevance to them until they actually understand. Nothing is wrong with that, but if the you were the one put in the friend zone how would you and a lot of these women feel. In my opinion based on my experience its just better to say " Hey I'm just not interested in pursuing anything with you". Its not really that hard. As I have gotten older I don't have a particular problem with the friend zone I just still have this stance on it because of the experiences I have had. Just imagine having a friendly converstion and it turns to how she had sex with a guy taking about his gentalia and graphic detail. I got very angry. There are women that will do that because they end up being so comfortable with the guy. Like I said some women will do this. I have had the possiblity of something more said to me by someone and it taken away like she got some sick joy out of it. I look back at it and realized it was my fault because I chose friendship with them. That is why a woman says she wants to be friends i just dont speak to her anymore. Its my way of preventing crazy stuff like that happening.
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