holy sh*t.. 2 months since the breakup, and she's going away with him

[funnyface]

My ex has already jumped into a brand new relationship. He and I dated for 6 months, and things were like a fairytale!!!! He romanced the pants off me, and went on overdrive, gave me every line under the sun... ("you're the only one I ever want," "please don't ever leave me," etc). I fell in love. He did too, I guess. Until he completely just shut off one day, no reason. Treated me like crap, said he was depressed. Wanted to move back to CA. I went along with it because I loved him, and said I would wait for him to get over this. After 2 weeks where he just flat out did not talk to me, I broke it off. It was unbearable.

 

Afterwards a lot of people told me he has issues. I thought "he's too unstable to be in any relationship right now." Nope. This girl, mutual friend... 4 years younger than both of us... and him are now together. She has always been obsessed with him and he always found it annoying.

 

I guess not anymore.

 

(sorry if I'm reiterating my story.... I'll stop now, you can read previous posts if you want.)

 

They haven't even been together for a month, and shes already hopping on a plane from the East Coast and visiting him in CA. Um.... wtf???

 

I used to cry about it a lot, when I first suspected it. Slowly, I'm getting less sad, I guess (for a few weeks, not too shabby). Now, things are going well for me and I got some calls for job interviews today, finally feeling somewhat happy with my life... so for the first time I haven't cried about it. In a way, I even laughed about it today. But its still a SERIOUS wtf kind of moment.

 

Any insight? How the hell could he put me through what I went through, messing with my mental state and putting me through hell, ignoring me... then start with another girl so soon?

[ken_25]

Well it sounds like a rebound and if he was being honest with you about being annoyed by this girl in the past then it's not going to last long at that. You were only together 6 months, that's not very long, which makes it a little easier to just start up something else. Some people leave someone after 7 years and just start up something with another person... it's just a rebound. Let them go off and make their mistakes, it's not your problem, try and keep focused on you and your life.

[LostInLimbo]

Hi FunnyFace, I hope what I have to say doesn't set you back, because you seem to be moving on (Very Good Thing), are you sure he wasn't cheating on you with the current GF? the only reason why I ask is because alot of times (not all) ppl don't leave to goto nothing, especially just all of a sudden shut off.

 

He does sound like he has issues, I don't know him and to me his issue was not giving a Sh*T about your feelings, I had it happen to me by an Ex, I found out after she left me 4 times, that it had always been happening, the cheating never stopped, I was there as a backup/convenience.

 

I know how you feel FF, its not pleasant, move on, he screwed you over and nobody deserves that, if at best he didn't screw you over, he is now with someone who you all know, that in itself is very low...

 

Best Wishes FF

 

LiL

[funnyface]

You're not setting me back... I have thought about if he cheated on me though. I highly doubt that, because basically he was completely lovey dovey, and the day that he completely changed gears was when we were away with a bunch of friends for a trip (specifically, Paris ... yes, leave it to me to be completely unoriginal and have relationship PROBLEMS while in the city of love, instead of falling in love ). She wasn't on the trip. When I mean he changed overnight, he LITERALLY shifted gears completely overnight. If you want to read more about specifics you can see my earlier posts. Its a super interesting and ridiculous situation for sure

 

He may have started something with her when we got back. Basically he kept ignoring me for a full month when we got back and I stuck it out because he called it depression. When we were together for my birthday, he was texting with her. I didnt mind and didnt think anything of it, mostly because we run in the same circle of friends, and also I'm just not the jealous or suspicious type.

 

If he did cheat on me, I almost wish I could find out. Its weird, but it would actually help me MORE to get over it, by knowing he was even more of a scumbag

 

To me, this is 100% rebound. He has issues... hes 25, broke, no aspirations, no college degree, and has a love for drinking... and looks for relationships to fill a void in his life. Glad I got out before it got worse. Still is annoying to see or hear about it though.