ShannonMI Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 You don't know what you are talking about. Try to open your mind and learn a little bit more about the rest of the inhabitants of this world. Troll? Maybe. Maybe not. But darned if I am going to be the one to be a "complete bitch" to a stranger who could possibly have a developmental delay or an educational disability. The guy on the street corner asking for hand-outs might not really need to be in a wheelchair, either, but I am not cold enough to go dump him out of it to see if he has to crawl out of the traffic. So you go for it. If his threads annoy you, then quit reading them. Gotcha!! I actually apologized to quietguy in a previous post because I realized he could very well be mentally challenged. I said if that was the case I was genuinely sorry. OK? Lets move on
AHardDaysNight Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 Damn right, Harry Potter. Thanks a lot. I actually was told I looked like him once, and was offended. I am no longer offended. Harry Potter is cool. So is John Lennon, probably the best out of the 4 Beatles.
oaks Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 So is John Lennon, probably the best out of the 4 Beatles. But Ringo did the voices for Thomas the Tank Engine.
Imajerk17 Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 You don't know what you are talking about. Try to open your mind and learn a little bit more about the rest of the inhabitants of this world. Troll? Maybe. Maybe not. But darned if I am going to be the one to be a "complete bitch" to a stranger who could possibly have a developmental delay or an educational disability. The guy on the street corner asking for hand-outs might not really need to be in a wheelchair, either, but I am not cold enough to go dump him out of it to see if he has to crawl out of the traffic. So you go for it. If his threads annoy you, then quit reading them. If the guy is really as disabled as he makes himself out to be, then he shouldn't be on this site. Hell he shouldn't even be dating. So why encourage the guy by giving him any advice? He shows enough self-awareness to make me suspect he is a troll. In that case, he shouldn't be on this site either.
Alexz Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 I often like freaking out women on dates. Sometimes I sit there, pick my nose and eat the contents in front of her. Mmmm meaty! Too sexy for these forums.
ShannonMI Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 If the guy is really as disabled as he makes himself out to be, then he shouldn't be on this site. Hell he shouldn't even be dating. So why encourage the guy by giving him any advice? He shows enough self-awareness to make me suspect he is a troll. In that case, he shouldn't be on this site either. Yep agreed! Wow Jerk, we are agreeing a lot lately! I mean disabled people should be able to date too, but I don't really think he should be on an internet site asking questions like "I have dandruff on my penis, what is it, Gangrene?" Which in my opinion screams TROLL, but who knows. He's going to get all sorts of mean people who may not know he's disababled if he is in fact disabled. He shouldn't be on a site like this. Like Jerk said in a previous post, his caregivers should be more aware of what he's doing online.
Imajerk17 Posted October 20, 2011 Posted October 20, 2011 Yep agreed! Wow Jerk, we are agreeing a lot lately! I mean disabled people should be able to date too, but I don't really think he should be on an internet site asking questions like "I have dandruff on my penis, what is it, Gangrene?" Which in my opinion screams TROLL, but who knows. He's going to get all sorts of mean people who may not know he's disababled if he is in fact disabled. He shouldn't be on a site like this. Like Jerk said in a previous post, his caregivers should be more aware of what he's doing online. Shannon, I know! Freaky eh. You have way more tact than I do though Something screams "troll" to me too. I put quietGuy in the same category as one_goal. Someone who is a troll, or has problems far too deep for the forum to address. Anyway, it astounds me that people try to give EITHER of these posters advice. Lucky One, if I understand, you still post to one goal's threads.....
AHardDaysNight Posted October 20, 2011 Posted October 20, 2011 Well, from my experience, mentally disabled people marry other mentally disabled people. Like attracts like. The problem with the OP is that he seems to think that he's entitled to a hot girl, just because he has a penis.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 20, 2011 Posted October 20, 2011 Girls ONline Disrespectful cause they know they have power? This is absurd thinking. The online world has merely helped to even the score and given women some small chance at dating and interacting at the same level, instead of at an inferior level. Consider that, in face-to-face situations where men and women are out socializing, a woman can't dare to completely be herself for fear of whatever signals that might send to various and random males nearby. She can't leave and walk home when she chooses without some amount of fear for her safety. While anonymous in the online world a woman can push that little "off" button whenever she pleases, and the men with whom she interacts online are well aware of same. The "power" is in the same places it has always been but the internet represents a significant step toward reversing the imbalances.
fortyninethousand322 Posted October 20, 2011 Posted October 20, 2011 Girls online in Dating sites are disrespectful. I'm not saying ignoreing your first mail..If they ignore your first email then fine, they never even started anything with you. so ok. but i'm talking about girls that make contact once. and then after that they decide to ignore you. For example, they chat with you , you have great conversation. they lie and say they will contact you and from now on, they don't respond to emails and sometimes even block you. With no reason given as to why. You end up wondering what you did wrong. That's what happened to me many times, and recently too. This girl we had a chat, she even said she wants to be my friend and visit me. And now, my email is ignored and closes my window when i send her an IM thing in the dating site. I just think Girls always have the power. Moreover so , because they usually don't pay. In dating sites they guys are the ones paying, and they just sit there and decide to tak to you or block you. WOmen have all the power in dating sites. it's sad that they act disrespectful without explaining anything. Anyone know why they do it? I mean if she had a great chat with me, why now blocks me. If it was all fake that she was enjoyng my chat then why? I don't know man. It's probably more a reflection on them then on you if that makes you feel any better. Also, at least they're responding to your messages initially though. Women do not respond to mine...at all. I'm beginning to think online dating is the biggest waste of time ever invented.
Lucky_One Posted October 20, 2011 Posted October 20, 2011 I stopped responding to one_goal's threads because I actually believe that he has Asperger's and truly could be a danger to these women that he gets attracted to. I think that responding to him encourages him. There are so many disabilities in this world, and many, many of them end up in healthy, happy, loving relationships with "normal" people (or as much as any one of us CAN be normal). Like doesn't attract like; but what you DO see is that people with disabilities are more open-minded and kind and willing to give a chance than those of us who are not, so they are more accepting to date someone who isn't the brightest, or the best looking, or can't speak, or who has seizures, or can't hear, or has a colostomy bag. I do get frustrated with Quiet_Guy, because he has gotten some good advice and some good tips but he doesn't implement them or respond tho them. And he doesn't have "caregivers"; he is able to go to school and hold a job. He is not an invalid.
thatone Posted October 20, 2011 Posted October 20, 2011 (edited) someone else dug up info on one goal, he has been specifically targetted as a potential threat by security staff of a female celebrity and has been removed from sporting events where he lives for harassing female ushers. those are just the two situations we know of. add to that his racist/conspiracy BS and yeah, he's cruising for a 10-20 year sentence or a long vacation at the state hospital. Edited October 20, 2011 by thatone
AHardDaysNight Posted October 20, 2011 Posted October 20, 2011 I don't even see what's so great about that celebrity, either? She's average looking, IMO, and not even marginally talented! But, to each his own. I gave up on OneGoal, too, because he honestly has...one goal. That is to ignore everyone's advice but his own, which is always bad.
Imajerk17 Posted October 20, 2011 Posted October 20, 2011 I stopped responding to one_goal's threads because I actually believe that he has Asperger's and truly could be a danger to these women that he gets attracted to. I think that responding to him encourages him. There are so many disabilities in this world, and many, many of them end up in healthy, happy, loving relationships with "normal" people (or as much as any one of us CAN be normal). Like doesn't attract like; but what you DO see is that people with disabilities are more open-minded and kind and willing to give a chance than those of us who are not, so they are more accepting to date someone who isn't the brightest, or the best looking, or can't speak, or who has seizures, or can't hear, or has a colostomy bag. I do get frustrated with Quiet_Guy, because he has gotten some good advice and some good tips but he doesn't implement them or respond tho them. And he doesn't have "caregivers"; he is able to go to school and hold a job. He is not an invalid. OK then, he can take responsibility for his behavior. If quietGuy acts weird and creepy, then it is just weird and creepy then.
AHardDaysNight Posted October 20, 2011 Posted October 20, 2011 OK then, quietGuy is just weird and creepy then. It's advice like this that gives a person social anxiety. Just sayin'. I wasn't born having an anxiety disorder. But...yet...I got told I was "weird" and "creepy" growing up. Hmm, wonder why I struggle making social connections?
Imajerk17 Posted October 20, 2011 Posted October 20, 2011 (edited) I edited my post. I'm not one for enabling people. If someone acts weird and creepy and they can help it--**and I suspect QG can which is why I've been harsher than some of you**, then they need to be told that they're being weird and creepy. To me, that is actually how you show respect, NOT by patronizing him. If they can't help it, then well they really don't belong here. I'd be a lot kinder if he showed any willingness to take some responsibility, but he does not. Or if I suspected he's not a troll. But I think he's playing a few of you. Edited October 20, 2011 by Imajerk17
ascendotum Posted October 20, 2011 Posted October 20, 2011 If the guy is really as disabled as he makes himself out to be, then he shouldn't be on this site. Hell he shouldn't even be dating. So why encourage the guy by giving him any advice? He shows enough self-awareness to make me suspect he is a troll. In that case, he shouldn't be on this site either. Ive recently suspected the same. Ive read some of his posts, some on the other forums and I think they show too much nuance for a guy that's supposed to be clueless when it comes to going to the movies and at other times with women & attraction in general, imo. The sudden flurry of interest in girls after 14 yrs of slumber, and I doubt its because he just did chelation therapy. A good troll keeps you 2nd guessing but anyway as LL said he does not respond to advice anyway.
ShannonMI Posted October 20, 2011 Posted October 20, 2011 (edited) Ive recently suspected the same. Ive read some of his posts, some on the other forums and I think they show too much nuance for a guy that's supposed to be clueless when it comes to going to the movies and at other times with women & attraction in general, imo. The sudden flurry of interest in girls after 14 yrs of slumber, and I doubt its because he just did chelation therapy. A good troll keeps you 2nd guessing but anyway as LL said he does not respond to advice anyway. And it's also a bit suspect that the guy posts these threads that blow up and then he never posts again on the thread. Kind of odd. Could be because he's a troll or if he's mentally handicapped could be because of people's negative reactions. Either way, he doesn't take the advice and should move on. It gets extremely irritating when his threads pop up. And just going through his threads (and he's got a lot of them) it's like WHY does this guy post this sh*t? To get a reaction out of people is my guess. Not because he is a 30 something man-child. Either way, keep it moving buddy. Time to move on. Edited October 20, 2011 by ShannonMI
ShannonMI Posted October 20, 2011 Posted October 20, 2011 someone else dug up info on one goal, he has been specifically targetted as a potential threat by security staff of a female celebrity and has been removed from sporting events where he lives for harassing female ushers. those are just the two situations we know of. add to that his racist/conspiracy BS and yeah, he's cruising for a 10-20 year sentence or a long vacation at the state hospital. Wow how creepy is that? So he's a legit nutcase. A dangerous one. That's pretty scary:eek:
Imajerk17 Posted October 20, 2011 Posted October 20, 2011 (edited) The sad things is that some people on here still give one_goal advice. It utterly astounds me that people still post on his threads. And that the moderators haven't stepped in and banned that clown. This isn't the place for quietGuy to be either. Edited October 20, 2011 by Imajerk17
Mystique2011 Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 I've been accused of a troll when I was going through a rough time in my life, so I'm going to give him the benefit of the doubt. People going through a hard time will reach out on the internet, and will have a strong craving for validation and support. Other people on the internet won't know to handle it. To the OP-There could be a number of things going on here. Girls (and guys) may just like the attention of chatting and then not taking it a further step. Second, you can't underestimate how confidence attracts people and insecurity turns people away (no matter how good-looking you are). Change your perspective when it comes to rejection. Rejection doesn't mean something is wrong with you. It's a part of the dating scene. Move on and find someone that values you for you.
AHardDaysNight Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 You know, if someone legitimately bothers you, to the point where you consider them a "troll"... You could always put them on ignore, you know? There's a built-in site function called the ignore list. It has helped me in several instances from losing my patience.
daphne Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 This is absurd thinking. The online world has merely helped to even the score and given women some small chance at dating and interacting at the same level, instead of at an inferior level. Consider that, in face-to-face situations where men and women are out socializing, a woman can't dare to completely be herself for fear of whatever signals that might send to various and random males nearby. She can't leave and walk home when she chooses without some amount of fear for her safety. While anonymous in the online world a woman can push that little "off" button whenever she pleases, and the men with whom she interacts online are well aware of same. The "power" is in the same places it has always been but the internet represents a significant step toward reversing the imbalances. Interesting that a guy would know this. There's a lot of truth in there. There are enough aggressive men that instill fear or won't go away because they feel entitled, whether you like it or not to make it difficult to relax and be yourself. You are damned if you do, damned if you don't. If you are distant, to avoid unwanted attention, then you're a cold b****. If you are friendly, you're a mean b*** or a flake or a tease when you don't respond to their romantic attempts. The fact is, if some guys don't get their way, they're going to be hostile about it no matter what you do. It can be exhausting to have to tap dance around guys that want a relationship or sex, even when you send them all kinds of signals of non interest.
PlumPrincess Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 This is absurd thinking. The online world has merely helped to even the score and given women some small chance at dating and interacting at the same level, instead of at an inferior level. Consider that, in face-to-face situations where men and women are out socializing, a woman can't dare to completely be herself for fear of whatever signals that might send to various and random males nearby. She can't leave and walk home when she chooses without some amount of fear for her safety. While anonymous in the online world a woman can push that little "off" button whenever she pleases, and the men with whom she interacts online are well aware of same. The "power" is in the same places it has always been but the internet represents a significant step toward reversing the imbalances. I don't believe online dating is in any way safer. There are so many freaks and creeps online and it's not comforting seeing them visit your profile over and over again. Really, I don't understand why they don't have a feature that allows you to block unwelcomed visitors.
AHardDaysNight Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 I don't believe online dating is in any way safer. There are so many freaks and creeps online and it's not comforting seeing them visit your profile over and over again. Really, I don't understand why they don't have a feature that allows you to block unwelcomed visitors. Because women would abuse it, and just ban unattractive men from viewing their profile. Unattractive doesn't = creepy.
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