ken_25 Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 Hey people.. just received my first breadcrumb today. She texted me "Thinking of you while I eat my publix sub. Hope you're doing good." I haven't responded. I haven't intiated any contact since August which is good. I did however take her brother to an NFL game week 1, we had plans made to go before my ex and I split. Anyway, she moved into her parents house and works Sunday's, so I picked him up and brought a couple of toys for her dog, which.. was basically my dog too for 3 years. Missed the little guy a lot. She texted me to thank me, and I just said no need to thank me and left it at that. This was September 11th. I was just wondering how you handled your first breadcrumbs. Did you fall into it? What happened?
Trovador Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 It wasn't like I fell into her breadcrumbs, I always responded and took her calls and texts, without saying too much... You know, for the most part, she was nice to me, even when we broke up, so no need to get aloof on my part... I didn't initiate anything though... I'd keep LC with her, just because the little guy...
Author ken_25 Posted October 19, 2011 Author Posted October 19, 2011 I see. Well for me, with the way she is and with the way things went down I don't want to play into anything. So I shall remain in NC, but I do feel in some break ups it's not necessary to ignore everything and all that jazz and it's okay keep things open and friendly. I was also wondering for those who've stayed NC when the first breadcrumbs came in, if it was just the beginning and all of a sudden they started sending you little things here and there more often or not. I know some people are different and react differently to no responses from the dumpee, but for the most part you can see patterns in relationship break ups. I just find this kind of stuff all very interesting.
wilsonx Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 I just want to remind you that your ex left you for her attraction to another guy! Just thought Id throw that out there, for me theres no such thing as LC, thats why my ex sends me loafs of bread which i just throw away
TheDovic Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 I got really excited but restrained myself and didn't respond... then they started coming thick and fast! I've given in a few times now, but mostly kept my head above water.
Trovador Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 This may sound stupid to some but I'd like to see the little guy, hence my allusion to LC, sort of like when you have a child with your ex... that's how I love dogs... As for breadcrumbs I think they are overrated... I mean, my last ex just sent me a "miss u" text after some days of NC... did that turned my world over? Do I think we are getting back together? Do I think she loves me? No... probably she actually miss me... I send her a card about her dog...
Author ken_25 Posted October 20, 2011 Author Posted October 20, 2011 Well for me personally I'm not going to go LC just for the dog right now or anytime in the near future. Me healing and moving on is more important as I would probably have to see her to see him. I'd rather not see her right now for obvious reasons so, that's where I'm at. Last month I had an opportunity to see him without her around so I took advantage. Well sometimes I think a person is just being genuine and seeing how you are or whatever and it's not really a "breadcrumb". But it seems a lot of times they are contacting you for a selfish reason, whether it's trying to relieve guilt or an ego boost, making sure you're still around for a fall back, etc. therefore I don't really see it as overrated. As what happened today, I felt she's probably trying to relieve some guilt, or just fishing for something. Haha yes I realize that's part of it wilson, don't worry about me, I'm pretty confident i've got it locked down. Hoping for no curve balls though. Thanks for the reply dovic. I know what you mean, when I saw her text I felt this rush go through me for a second.
Trovador Posted October 20, 2011 Posted October 20, 2011 Most of the time dumpers aren't evil geniuses with this nefarious global plan against us and seek to confound our minds with their occasional greetings... Nah... if anything they barely care about us... that's what I mean by overrated breadcrumbs... we are the ones who make them big... So, ignore them or respond to them, but move on... wish you the best, man!
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