Zabs Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 Short and sweet... I have recently had to forgo a career that I used to love... Decided to retrain in mechanics (health permitting) 2days after my ex found out...all of a sudden he is on top of a car..on a picture?! Next..I like a particular musician... I added it on fb yesterday Today, the ex...has that musician as his profile pic! Er...subtle messages or not? Yes or no... Zabs xx
Mack05 Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 Why check even your ex's facebook? You can't get subtle (pointless) messages, if you completely disengage..
TheDovic Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 Hey Zabsy, Hope life's treating you well today . I think the first one with the car could be a coincidence, although the second one is quite strange. Was he a big fan of this musician to?
Author Zabs Posted October 19, 2011 Author Posted October 19, 2011 Mack...Hiya fella! How goes? You really would have to read through...complicated is not the word! Dovic..Hey hun! How are you? Weirdly enough I feel I've missed you and our Stella! Getting sentimental in my old age...completely irrelevant...but where are you based in Ireland? I am going for a vacation early next year...can you recommend anywhere? Er, do you know what 'pranging' is? He was 'prangin' a car 2 days after I told him I wanna study mechanics...point 2...sure he is but not before me..plus a friend of his has 'subscribed to my updates' and FR me...I do not know him! My prof is public cos I don't put any private biz on it... Zx:bunny:
M2155 Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 Probably just messing with you. I was tempted once to steal one of his profile pictures that was team picture just to mess with him (but that would be stupid since we don't speak and proof I was following him). But if I had, it would have been just to get a reaction.
Author Zabs Posted October 19, 2011 Author Posted October 19, 2011 I guess I feel like I am 'sculpting' responses... those that have not read the background...dunno how well informed you are...IIBH, right now I am feeling really poo...I have BP..and today is ****ing ****...and do you know what the joke is? My whole life I have never had balance...looks like I never will
Mack05 Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 (edited) I guess I feel like I am 'sculpting' responses... those that have not read the background...dunno how well informed you are...IIBH, right now I am feeling really poo...I have BP..and today is ****ing ****...and do you know what the joke is? My whole life I have never had balance...looks like I never will Zabs..... "Brilliant...I have absolutely no idea what's going on"..I guess I just don't understand the style of writing you use. I know it's English, but I can never make head nor tail of it. Like Homer Simpson watching twin peaks http://www.lynchnet.com/tp/video/tpsimpsons2.mov Edited October 19, 2011 by Mack05
Author Zabs Posted October 19, 2011 Author Posted October 19, 2011 Never watched Peaks...Dovic..can you help me out? Ps: Unless I am assked ..what can I say? Family...Do me a favour...if you don't get it...please let me know...because I for sure **** won't\
TheDovic Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 I guess I feel like I am 'sculpting' responses... those that have not read the background...dunno how well informed you are...IIBH, right now I am feeling really poo...I have BP..and today is ****ing ****...and do you know what the joke is? My whole life I have never had balance...looks like I never will For Mack's benefit: IIBH = If I'm being honest BP = Bipolar? Hey Zabsy, I'm doing ok today, thanks. Kinda one of those days where I really believe she isn't coming back. Don't know if that's a good or bad thing. Probably both as it's on these days I read the right books and start to see how toxic the relationship was! I have no idea what pranging is, but if it's linked to engineering (and it sounds like it is) then it could be more than coincidence. PS, sorry to hear you're having such a bad day. If I'm correct and you have bipolar you have my sympathies. I also suffer from depression as you're aware, and there's nothing quite like one of those days where everything seems black. Almost makes you miss those crazy manic episodes (although they're no fun either!!!) With regard to Ireland, you have to come to my town for a pint of the black stuff . I'll tell you exactly where that is via private message, but not on this thread (ya dunno who's reading lol). Places to go then? Dublin, Belfast, Derry and the West Coast. Galway is quite nice! Not loads to do but the craic in our wee country is lethal, you'll love it!!!
Author Zabs Posted October 20, 2011 Author Posted October 20, 2011 hey Hun... Yep it HAS been a bad day..but hope from now it will be better...till the next time of course IIBH - yep BP - Yep:D Well done! I am getting lazy with the ole abbs hey LOL I did those books to death..but sent them on to someone that needed them...I sure don't. I know what's going on but doesn't make me feel like uch control over it none the less..but at least HE doesn't know that...and neither does your ex...which can only be good! Rem...knowledge is power and we are in the know! Prangin is ltying on objects...weird really...like lying on lampost at top...google it should show some ie;s. lol daftness really...but methinks if I say wanna be a mechanic...then he is sprawled over a car...I kinda go the impression he wished he was lay onme as mechanics are so often on their back ain't they? LOL Ireland is a definite!:)ALWAYS wanted to go! And that would be nice! Thanks.. Ps..I don't know if I can access PMs? Much love:bunny: Zx
TheDovic Posted October 20, 2011 Posted October 20, 2011 Hey Zabs , Did you ever read Howard Halpern's "Breaking your addiction to a person?" Mack recommended it to me and I'm about half way through, finding it to be really helpful. (ps, we are SOOOO in the know! ) And is that why you're going into engineering... so men will lie on top of you!!!??? Shame on you Zabs Maybe you need to change a setting in your profile to access PM's. Strange you can't, plus strange you're not yet an established member having over 150 posts!!!
TheDovic Posted October 20, 2011 Posted October 20, 2011 Dovic..dunno how to do it! LOL Zx It's because you're not an established member Zabsy, I just checked it out! You become an established member based on two things (1. Length of time on the forum & 2. How many posts you have submitted), so keep posting and soon you'll be an established member
Author Zabs Posted October 28, 2011 Author Posted October 28, 2011 LOL....LOL...LOL PMSL.... Now I got that out of my system....LOL LOL LOL...not quite! NOW! So you already know I found out he'd put widowed on fb...telling the world.. So NOW apprently, he has been adding the same stuff as me on mine (found out via mutual friends) and today I was feeling a little like cathartic...so I posted songs that meant something to me about him... and at the end...The Final Countdown...adding - take care (as my prof is public I ain't got owt to hide) A few hours later, he has changed the picture of the one he KNOWS I hate to a regular one...left his status on as widowed but eployment is enjoying life!! I nearly wet my pantees with the joke...sa sitting in an old man's pub day in day out with pot bellied mates isn't enjoying life..neither is shadowing everything I do anywhere... Now, as y'all know..I don't ask questions of behalf of myself often...so not gonna bother now..but if you wanna post agree/disagree feel free! At the end of the day, this behaviour translates into.... I don't like/can't deal with the fact that you are thinking of moving on and forgetting about me I am not sure what I want but I want you to be there for when I do I do NOT want anyone else to have you and in fact I want people to pity me I have no spine to tell you how I really feel and am behaving like a sap hoping our love with just fall back into place without effort I want you to feel how I feel and feel threatened by my 'enjoying life' comment I have no courage to say you were right...becuase I am a Donkey. That is WHY I was laughing so much earlier..because ACTUALLY..ISince my illness, I have done MORE in my life than in a long time and slowly coming to a pooint where I care less and less about his thoughts or feelings. It does happen! The ego of a person like that becomes damaged when you show any signs of independence or indeed becoming involved in another elationship. I know for a FACT he will have been poking about God knows where..whereas I have not been involved with anyone since Aug 2010... That is why I find it sooo funny
Author Zabs Posted October 28, 2011 Author Posted October 28, 2011 Hey Our Stella! How goes?! Well done! I am proud of you how have things been for you setting and meeting your targets?! Hope you are ok? I am a little pissed off...because of what he is doing..but he is only hurting himself. :rolleyes:I truly AM getting on with my life whilst his is still stuck in limbo. All the 'enjoying life' crap doesn't ring true when he is also carrying on with this obsessive behaviour. If he was truly living life, he would not need to keep tabs on me period...but he can't. It has been two weeks now since we have had contact..he will be getting restless now...so he is TRYING to up the ante...but not working! PMSL:laugh: The thing is, I may or may:( not have this condition for the rest of my life...I may or may not have to use a wheerlchair permanently:(....I do not have time, energy or interest to waste on trying anymore. He will soon realise...very soon..that MY way is the ONLY way...or it will be Game Over! Zabs xx
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