Fighting for love.

[tigressA]

I read an interesting blog post a little while ago entitled 'Why Are You Convincing Someone to Love You?' It raises some questions, which I wanted to post here to generate discussion.

 

The post starts with the quote "Everything worth having is worth fighting for." And then it asks: How true is it in love? How much fighting is too much? Who decides if the battle is worth fighting?

 

I've made the mistake of fighting for love that just wasn't there, and it sucks. Chasing after someone who doesn't love you is very draining. There have been other times I've fought for what I believed would help the relationship; sometimes I was wrong, sometimes I was right. I think the key is being able to realize if the other person wants to be with you or not.

 

http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/why-are-you-convincing-someone-to-love-you-2588305/

[counterman]

That brings back a lot of painful memories... I agree with you, that the key is realising if the person wants to be with you or not. No what I tried, it just didn't seem to be enough. She kept saying she loved me but she never showed it. In the end, I realised what I was fighting for probably wasn't even there in the first place.

 

I believe in putting a whole-hearted effort when it comes to someone you truly believe in. However, not to the extent where I'm suffering greatly, like I was with my ex.

[tradewinds]

If you have to convince someone to love you, you are wrong. You can't make anyone do or feel anything. I wouldn't waste my time (I couldn't pull up the article) and would just get the heartbreak over and move on.