Elizabeth Southerns Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Honestly...I would bet the number of men who truly leave on their own is saddly low. I know too many woman who have KICKED thier men out of the house. I mean kicked. forced. And the OW who probably believe the other story the MM is telling them. I get it~ Its a pride thing for everyone. The MM doesn't really want to leave but he can't tell the OW~ She might stop having sex with him and kissing his ass. He worked too hard to have it all. I don't know ladies... Sometimes don't you want to ask your MM ExW how everything really went down??? How do you kick someone out of their own home, if a crime has not been committed? Surely the one who most wants to leave, leaves - once they have suitable alternative accommodation arranged? That's certainly been the case in every split I've seen IRL!
bentnotbroken Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 How do you kick someone out of their own home, if a crime has not been committed? Surely the one who most wants to leave, leaves - once they have suitable alternative accommodation arranged? That's certainly been the case in every split I've seen IRL! It happens the same way it happens everyday IRL. Spouse told to get out and they get the hell out. As many have said (BS, WS and AP) the experiences of one(or even some) do not translate into all. Regions, cultures and expectations are differing. So the experiences of get the feck out are also different. We could hazard a guess that you have only seen a % or breakups IRL. That tends to color all of our views. Did Mr. Messy have suitable accommodations...yes his car was suitable until he could do better for himself.
donnamaybe Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 How do you kick someone out of their own home, if a crime has not been committed? Surely the one who most wants to leave, leaves - once they have suitable alternative accommodation arranged? That's certainly been the case in every split I've seen IRL! You have the divorce papers served, and then there is a certain amount of time by which the party served has to vacate the home, providing the party who filed has all their ducks in a row. At least that's how it works where I'm from.
Elizabeth Southerns Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 You have the divorce papers served, and then there is a certain amount of time by which the party served has to vacate the home, providing the party who filed has all their ducks in a row. At least that's how it works where I'm from. Wow! That's a bit brutal! Where I'm from, housing and marital status are two separate issues. If you want to evict someone from a property they own (jointly or severally) you need grounds for doing so beyond "I don't like their face anymore" - usually based on violence or the threat of violence. In cases of divorce, it's far more likely that BOTH parties will be evicted and the property sold, unless it is registered in the name of one party only, in which case the other party will be evicted (unless they are married COP, in which case both will be evicted, the property sold and the proceeds split). If children are involved, allowance will be made for that (the property retained, with both parties retaining access, until suitable other accommodation can be found) if joint custody is awarded (as is the norm, unless social services has ruled that one parent is unfit - usually due to criminal activity, drug or alcohol dependence, or mental health issues). The only cases I've seen IRL of people being evicted from properties they own have involved the perpetrators of domestic violence being evicted (and usually held in police custody pending trial).
donnamaybe Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Yeah, two people in a failed M being forced to live together. That wouldn't be "brutal" at all.
Barrsitter Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 LC The answer to your problem is simple. The doing of it, not so much. Stay away from xH and xMM. Full stop. Ignore all blah-blah from xH and xMM. It's all disingenuous vomit. Never involve yourself with a MM again. Get some counselling for yourself. Be well, Barr
Elizabeth Southerns Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Yeah, two people in a failed M being forced to live together. That wouldn't be "brutal" at all. Nobody's forcing anybody to do anything! OTC, either party is free to move on any time they want. The alternative to evicting one person is not to force both to stay together by law - there are other possibilities in the world :lmao: :lmao:
donnamaybe Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 I think there might be a parallel universe I'm unaware of.
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