Smiley2508 Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 I've read all the books and combed Google, all for a little reassurance on how you are meant to handle when your ex gets into a rebound. I understand you have to be okay with it and be happy and not try to harm that relationship in anyway. However I'm unsure what you're meant to do communication wise. Are you meant to hand out the olive branch and risk possible jealousy and falling into the friend zone, Hold off till the relationship hopefully fails and then contact after or just a mixture of both you remain in contact but nothing major and go out and live your life up and hopefully do something if the ex's rebound finishes. Right now, i'd prefer the 3rd option. However my heart just wants to be in contact with my ex. Because some contact seems better than nothing but i still want to get back with my ex so i don't want to do anything to jeopardize any future chances.
mike111 Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 Me EX went through the rebound relationship from hell. He was a psycho and she had to finally take him to court to get rid of him. I had to stay out of it. I had no business there anyway. But she was warned by so many this guy was nuts. Even her parents who usually say nothing at all were upfront about this bastard. But can you even be with this person again, after they have been with someone else? I could not. I just felt sick about it. And I healed anyway. mike
leoc1973 Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 smiley, If you are trying to get her back you have to go no contact. there is no choice. If you don't you can kiss her goodbye. She needs to feel like something is missing while she is with this guy. If you hang around you will comfort her while she has this fling and think this guy is the best thing since sliced bread. But without you she will pick him apart. Ask 1000 people and 999 of them will tell you nc all the way
Author Smiley2508 Posted October 19, 2011 Author Posted October 19, 2011 I've gone 2 months NC, but we saw each other yesterday and ended up talking. However i know she's in a rebound so i had no idea how to proceed.. she wants to be friends but i don't wanna hit the friend zone or be there as an emotional pin cushion. It's just hard trying to think logically when your head starts playing mind games as everyone would know.
mike111 Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 smile, I think you are just going to get BADLY hurt if you remain in contact with her while she is dating this new guy. And the hurt will go on and on and on. 1
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