simpsonic Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 So I posted a thread a last month about a guy that I had a crush on but I wasn't sure how to make a move. Well, we were talking tonight about the kinds of things we like to do outside of work. Then, as a way to find out if he was seeing anyone, I asked in a playful manner, "So does your girlfriend enjoy those activities too?" And he said, "Yes, she does!" Crap. I tried to pretend it didn't bother me, but needless to say I was feeling pretty down tonight after hearing that. It's going to be hard for me to go to trivia nights now. (we met through a Meetup group). But I don't want to stop going because I've made some great friends in the group. It's just going to be hard seeing him there. I guess it's good that I know now, but the feeling still sucks.
whichwayisup Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 Your bubble just got popped...Have a good cry and then focus on letting go and not letting yourself 'want' him or fantasize about him. Chances are, he isn't who you built him up to be in your head anyway. It's good now you know he has a girlfriend, no more wasted time on him. Please, continue to go! Even if you see him, pretend that you're okay.. Don't let him take away something that you enjoy doing in fear of running into him.
ShannonMI Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 So I posted a thread a last month about a guy that I had a crush on but I wasn't sure how to make a move. Well, we were talking tonight about the kinds of things we like to do outside of work. Then, as a way to find out if he was seeing anyone, I asked in a playful manner, "So does your girlfriend enjoy those activities too?" And he said, "Yes, she does!" Crap. I tried to pretend it didn't bother me, but needless to say I was feeling pretty down tonight after hearing that. It's going to be hard for me to go to trivia nights now. (we met through a Meetup group). But I don't want to stop going because I've made some great friends in the group. It's just going to be hard seeing him there. I guess it's good that I know now, but the feeling still sucks. I know the feeling. There is a guy I want to date and he is engaged. It stinks because he's always liked me and even wanted to date me a year or so ago but I was with someone else. Now that I'm single, he's not. The timing sucks! I still see him from time to time and there is definite chemistry, but we can't do anything about it. He's got great qualities. He's sweet, funny and really attractive. Sometimes it's just not fair, I know.
orion1010 Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 You should still go because you may meet someone new that you may like more. you never know!
grkBoy Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 Your bubble just got popped...Have a good cry and then focus on letting go and not letting yourself 'want' him or fantasize about him. Chances are, he isn't who you built him up to be in your head anyway. It's good now you know he has a girlfriend, no more wasted time on him. Please, continue to go! Even if you see him, pretend that you're okay.. Don't let him take away something that you enjoy doing in fear of running into him. +1 Sorry to hear Mr Dreamboat has been taken. Most of us here know that pain when someone amazing comes along, then you find out he/she isn't single.
Author simpsonic Posted October 19, 2011 Author Posted October 19, 2011 Thanks guys. I won't stop going altogether, I just think I need to go a little less frequently for the time being. You know the saying, out of sight, out of mind.
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