messymichelle Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 im back again, just to recap me and my ex were together for 10 years, we broke up last year for 5/6 months, i came on here to help myself and i did. i took time for me went LC( we have kids). then he persuaded me to give him "one more chance" ( he had a fling), anyway i still loved him so i did. fast forward 8 months and here we ****ing go again. only this time i learned from the first break up, i didnt cry,scream,beg, i done nothing because i already knew that it should of stayed finished the first time. so y when i heard today that 3 days after we finished that he MOVED in with another woman and her kid, do i feel abit sad ? i have not contacted him and he has not contacted me even to see bout the kids, i no that he must of been seeing her behind my back, i havent cried or anything yet is this normal? i definately dont want the lyin cheating thiefing cunt back so y cant i feel relieved that hes gone???
mike111 Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 (edited) You will feel relieved after a while. For me it took about 3 years to finally say, "Hooray! She's gone!" and mean it Hopefully it won't take you that long. But that day is a-coming mike Edited October 19, 2011 by mike111
norajane Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 Because you were together for 10 years, and have children together. Of course you will feel sad, even though he's an ass. He was a big part of your life for a long time, you made babies with him, and at some point, you had fallen in love with him way back when. It takes a while to say goodbye to part of your life. But you will. It just takes time.
karmaqueen Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 I guess you are a bit numb, especially as you had been through it all before with him. I have been in a similar situation to you and the one thing I learnt was to trust my instincts. You are so much better than him. Stay strong xx
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