JengleBells83 Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 (edited) So a little background...my now ex and I were really good friends for 2 years, and dated from May until the end of August. Things were VERY intense- it just happened so naturally, we were totally in love with eachother, he gushed to his friends about me, we both felt like it was different, etc. When he broke up with me, he initially said it was a "break", acted like he didnt want to do it, and cried the entire 2 hour conversation we had that night. We broke up because I really hurt him by the things I was saying (doubts, the long distance between us- 2 hours- and his depressed, made me insecure, everything just made it all a mess). I apologized repeatedly and he knew I had been going through a VERY difficult time in my life. He said that the last 2 weeks of our relationship I crushed him with the things I said. So apparently, he began dating a 19 year old girl who he worked with (he is 31), who had a MAJOR crush on him for months prior, but nothing he did anything about or was interested in...and he began dating her 7 days after our breakup. I was extremely hurt. ...So fast forward to this past weekend. My ex and I have this mutual friend Jewel, and Jewel and I are best friends. We were in the town my ex lives in, and decided to go to the bar that he works at. I knew he wouldnt be there, but it was nice to see everyone of our mutual friends. Well, through facebook, and our friends texting, about 2 hours later, my ex shows up...all dolled up, and I was totally surprised to see him and was like ohmigod! how are you??...to which he said nothing, and sorta smiled and waved and went into the bar. He told Jewel that he was there to talk to the bartender- and kind of blew off my friend and I, and all our mutual friends that were there. Jewel talked to him a little bit, asked him if him and i were ever going to be friends again, to which he replied "not tonight". I did catch him looking at me a few times, but he NEVER spoke A WORD to me. I didn't either except for the nice hello. Well, a day later, I come to find out that he made his status "I love my girlfriend- I thank god, satan, whoever for making this happen...happy as a clam". Now I am not friends with him on facebook anymore, and he has me blocked, but I went on a friends facebook and saw that. The next day, he was officially "in a relationship" with her. It seemed very odd to me... he hadn't posted ANYTHING about her in almost 2 weeks, and when i saw him, he didn't look happy, almost depressed, and just acted weird. Do you think hes legit with this girl, indifferent with me, doesnt care, or what? I can't figure out why he came up to the bar in the first place.... Any insight into his thinking? Edited October 18, 2011 by JengleBells83
Unrequitedlove Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 It seems that he's really making an effort in moving on from your relationship with him, so now it's your turn.
Author JengleBells83 Posted October 19, 2011 Author Posted October 19, 2011 It just seems odd to me that he started posting about her again after seeing me...and why did he even come up to the bar, when he knew I was there if he was soo in love with his new gf? And why cant he still not talk to me?? We're going on a month and a half now of being broken up. If hes so happy, wouldnt he be able to talk to me again as a friend? He always said since this happened that he wanted us to be friends.
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