ccnaboy2000 Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 (edited) I've generally doing okay for the past 3 weeks but last night I started getting pretty down. It's been 3 weeks since she went from the i miss you's I can't live without you in my life to finding another guy almost instantly. Today she changed her facebook picture to a picture of them. It hit me pretty hard. I feel like everything she said in the end was a lie. I havent heard from her in 3 weeks. I've been NC completely. But it doesn't really matter. after 1.5yrs together I guess it only took a week to forget me. I guess i never really meant anything to begin with. I hate this crap. I just wish it would fail and she would realize that we actually had something. I'm not a bad looking guy, but this guy is better looking than me, really thin.. What he sees in a 5 foot 180lb girl is beyond me. Guess it really is over, and now I have to live with the lies at the end in bewilderment... Funny a couple weeks prior to the breakup she was talking about suicide and stuff and now she's as happy as can be. Doubt I'm even a thought in her mind now.... so much for "I hate sex, i just dont like it." "I wish I had time to work on us" "I don't have time for a relationship"... all lies?? Is it still a rebound...? Not really sure theres a second chance now. I know there was love, hell a few days before getting into a relationship with "hes just a friend" she told me she still loved me and cared for me... was even chasing me a bit while I was no contact for the first week and a half fter the split, but then she got into a full relationship with this guy. all seems so hopeless now. so much for "lets take things slow, I still want to be with you i just dont have time for a relationship right now" Why do girls always lie???? The fact the breadcrumbs immediately stopped once she found "hes just a friend, this isnt the end we still have a chance" really makes me beleive there is no second shot. I thought after 3 weeks things would be easier... But feeling so completely replaced makes this so much harder. Shoot me. Edited October 18, 2011 by ccnaboy2000
TheDovic Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 Of course it's a rebound dude, and it will more than likely fail. Doesn't make it much easier for you though I suppose! But, positive signs are she appears to be overly happy (first sign of a rebound). Next thing they'll be really serious, maybe talking about being soul mates or some **** like that, before cracks start to appear and it ends because the relationship moved too quickly. Remember, rebounds end 90% of the time, so whilst she's happy now it won't last. Plus nobody can switch their emotions off so quickly so if she loved you three weeks ago she still loves you now. She's just in the middle of a rebound and can't see that at the minute!!!
Author ccnaboy2000 Posted October 18, 2011 Author Posted October 18, 2011 I guess the one thing in my mind that blows my mind is. I'm a good looking guy. I mean I ganed like 35lbs over the past year and a half, but am still attractive. But this guy is pretty good looking too, thin/athletic. Hah the picture that set me off today I was just wondering in my mind " what is he doing with her?" She didn't look attractive at all in the photo! I mean, nice thin dude with a short chubby girl? I mean honestly, I'de say hes 10x better looking than her. Meh, I'm just piecing everything together trying to figure out what the lies were and what the truth is and what my future is going to be. I'm trying to move on, but after a year and a half I know for my part it will take a while.
headsashed Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 ive had the "i love u,miss u,care for you" lots since we split,i even had it days after she slept with some guy, even before we split i had the "best thing in my life,ill love you till i die" but they are only words,actions speak louder than words to which ive learned recently. you have gone 3 weeks,ive gone 5 weeks and its still killing me,then again ive not actually stuck to NC so ive been the cause of my own pain,all i can say is listen to people on here,it does help.
Author ccnaboy2000 Posted October 18, 2011 Author Posted October 18, 2011 Next thing they'll be really serious, maybe talking about being soul mates or some **** like that That is already happening. ive had the "i love u,miss u,care for you" lots since we split,i even had it days after she slept with some guy, even before we split i had the "best thing in my life,ill love you till i die" but they are only words,actions speak louder than words to which ive learned recently. I'm not even getting a single breadcrumb! They all stopped the day she started the relationship with mr just a friend. I am however sticking completely NC. ( I had a weak moment today, I didn't contact but did look @ facebook... I dont even have a FB)
headsashed Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 im probably the worst person on here for having weak moments,in 5 weeks i have to say ive responded to 80% of her txts etc,and ive contacted her 1st at times,its not easy if you love someone deeply,you just have to be strong,im starting day 1 again of NC and its killing me because she has txt me,if she hadnt been txting it would have hurt loads knowing she isnt bothered but it would have made it easier in a way because i know i wouldnt have contacted her as much.
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