YouNeverKnow86 Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 Well my ex girlfriend broke up with me out of nowhere a few months ago. Everything seemed perfect (no fighting, family loved me, etc.) and she literally latched onto me/hung out with me all the time. The relationship only lasted 3 months and the breakup was a complete shock. Reflecting back I have realized some red flags and I wanted to know if anyone else has seen similar characteristics with their ex's and if this coincides with some personality disorder or issue? Red Flags: 1). She transferred out of 2 colleges, she now lives at home with her family and commutes to school. 2). She is a homebody (doesn't like going to bars, enjoys staying home) and hasn't kept in contact with any friends from high school or college. In fact she cut contact with her only friend once she started dating me. She says her sister is her best friend. 3). It took her 1 year to get over he ex boyfriend (the breakup was 2 years ago and it was a 2 year long relationship). The boyfriend attended the one school she transferred from. 4). One time I caught her halfway in her kitchen cabinet digging for something (probably sweets) as if she was hiding something. This was a weird sight and she was doing this late at night when her family was asleep. 5). Her one friend (who she lost contact with while dating me) told me she has gone on many dates with various "good" guys before meeting me but doubted each once she found a fault (as if she was searching for the perfect guy). She says I was different because we actually got into a relationship. Does this make sense to anyone?
wilsonx Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 At the end of 3 months, you weren't the one Move on to the next one
ffw Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 Over analyzing situation is not going to help much. There always going to be unanswered questions but don't get yourself stuck in this illusion. Most probabily she herself nor anyone can answer these questions. You got to move on. Its good it didn't prolonged for long....
marqueemoon4 Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 Move on. A 3 month relationship is like an extended date that didn't work out. Like others said be glad you didn't invest more time.
2011 Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 I know what you want to hear as I had a similar situation last year and I constantly tried to "reason" what happened. I spent the last 8 months doing that, after a 6 month RL ffs so really don't fret too much about it, after all if your concerns/thoughts about her are valid then it is nothing you can change and it is something that will keep on cropping up and haunting every RL she has. Try and live your life for you and don't waste your time trying to fix something in your head that in reality will never be fixed, some people are warped and jaded, and a lot of times for good reasons but it is not your job to fix them either. 2011
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