MIK1000 Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 Long story short - young couple, me 20, her 19, very much in love and a very healthy relationship. She goes away to america for the summer to work at a kids summer camp for 3.5 months. A girl who was usually a non stop texted, phone caller became very distant and was hardly in touch. Eventually she dumped me after I got upset about this and complained too much. Two weeks later she's going out with another boy from her camp and tells me. I start No contact, she returns home a few weeks later, and drunk texts me at 2 in the morning saying "Hi How are you?" I just say "Fine thanks". I was expecting her to return home and ask to meet up and apologise for what she did and say she never meant to hurt me so badly, even just to make herself feel like she's doing the right thing. But I haven't heard from her at all other than that text which was a month ago. All I've heard from other people is that her New bf she met at camp has been up visiting her from down south (england, like 5 hours away by car) every other weekend. Will she apologise in time and realise what a ****ty thing she did? Or has she convinced herself that she's done nothing wrong?
Chi townD Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 She convinced herself that she's done nothing wrong. She did everything by the book. Broke up with you first, THEN started dating this other guy. However, deep down, she knows that she did you wrong because she probably started to develope feelings for this guy while you two were still together and she was looking for any lame ass excuse to cut you loose. She isn't worth your time. Ignore her, stop asking about her and move on. Trust me, she did something extremely crappy and she's got feelers out on you. People feeding her information about you and how you're doing. Don't give her an ego boost with people telling her your a mess. "Awww...the poor sod can't get over me..." Make positive changes in your life, don't give her the satisfaction.
Author MIK1000 Posted October 18, 2011 Author Posted October 18, 2011 She convinced herself that she's done nothing wrong. She did everything by the book. Broke up with you first, THEN started dating this other guy. However, deep down, she knows that she did you wrong because she probably started to develope feelings for this guy while you two were still together and she was looking for any lame ass excuse to cut you loose. She isn't worth your time. Ignore her, stop asking about her and move on. Trust me, she did something extremely crappy and she's got feelers out on you. People feeding her information about you and how you're doing. Don't give her an ego boost with people telling her your a mess. "Awww...the poor sod can't get over me..." Make positive changes in your life, don't give her the satisfaction. Thanks for the reply. I think that's a very accurate look on things, she did everything by the book but in the end she broke us up and made a huge deal of an insignificant drunken argument initiated by me via text because i was upset by her lack of contact. The sort of argument that when she was back home, would have been resolved by a kiss and cuddle 2 hours later. I've heard the version of events she has told her friends about what happened. It involved me only contacting her twice the whole time she was there (hold on I was annoyed at her for being distant). A load of bull just to relieve herself of her friends shame (they liked me). She has no feelers out on me though, her friends haven't seen me and she can't see my Facebook. I can find out about her if I really try but I don't let myself anymore. Don't worry, I'm anything but a mess. I've lost a ton of weight since the break up, been getting driving lessons, got a new job and am actually really happy. Been buying new clothes to make myself more attractive and am already dating a new girl (just casual) who by the way is very good friends with the ex's best friend.
Chi townD Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 Don't worry, I'm anything but a mess. I've lost a ton of weight since the break up, been getting driving lessons, got a new job and am actually really happy. Been buying new clothes to make myself more attractive and am already dating a new girl (just casual) who by the way is very good friends with the ex's best friend. LOL! There ya go! That's awesome! Oh, and trust me, she more than likely will be tracking you. She did end things pretty crappy with you...she's gonna want to smooth things over as soon as reality smacks her in the face....or new guy gets sick and tired of traveling so much.
Author MIK1000 Posted October 18, 2011 Author Posted October 18, 2011 LOL! There ya go! That's awesome! Oh, and trust me, she more than likely will be tracking you. She did end things pretty crappy with you...she's gonna want to smooth things over as soon as reality smacks her in the face....or new guy gets sick and tired of traveling so much. I was waiting a while for reality to smack her in the face e.g home life to bring her back down to earth after being on cloud 9 for the whole summer but I realised It was stupid to be waiting about for it. The other guy is not attractive but I've heard he's travelled up every second weekend since she got back which is a lot of effort and I'm certain she won't be reciprocating that effort because she is not one to go to a huge effort to see you, never mind travel down to another country (england). The fact that she is far more attractive than him is probably motivating him to put in all the effort. I don't really want her back anymore, at least i wouldn't jump at the chance to have her back. But I would like some recognition that she did really wrong by me. Especially considering we were like best friends before she left. I remember she used to talk about how bad she felt for ending things in a bad way with her long term boy friend (when she was only 16) but I don't think she ever really apologised. I guess she's just a coward.
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