oldSOULe Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 (edited) Hi, so went on a date with a girl the other day, the date as far as im concerned went awesome, she was absolutely stunning, great personality ,we got on really wel, easy conversation, plenty of laughs, and by the way she was looking at me, i felt certain that she was quite into me. So we ended up going back to her place after going for some drinks, and started watching a movie. She fell asleep and being the gentleman that i am i tucked her up in her duvet and went home. Now after a few text conversations she has gone really quiet, and just seems to have lost interest, now im really not a game player ,if i like someone, i want to talk to them and let them know. So ladies, do you think she just isnt as in to me as i thought? Or is she playing hard to get ,to see what i do. Normally i wouldnt even consider jumping through hoops unless i was at least getting some feedback, but i really felt like there was a connection with this girl. Advice appreciated from girls and guys Cheers Edited October 18, 2011 by oldSOULe title mistake
Leegh Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 Is she not answering your texts, or if she is, is she answering them soon? In addition, what are you saying when you text her, are you asking a question and waiting for a reply, or are you just casually texting her? She may be uncertain how you feel. Are you suggesting getting together again with her in the texts?
Andy_K Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 I find it hard to believe she'd have fallen asleep if she was THAT into you.
Author oldSOULe Posted October 18, 2011 Author Posted October 18, 2011 She answered one, yesterday to which i replied, ill always ask a question in a text, she hasnt replied so i havent sent another one, really dont want to look desperate Andy ,i guess your probably right, but it was late and in hindsight watching a movie was probably a bad idea, guess i cant understand why someone would even invite you back if they werent into you, she apologised for falling asleep the next day and said she was embarrassed about it. Think im going to leave it a few days without texting at all, then ask if she wants to go out again, if i dont get a reply i guess i will admit defeat
Kamille Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 Personally, at the beginning of a relationship, I'm not much into texting or random calling. I much prefer getting to know someone on dates than through social media. Why not just ask her out again? If she says no, you know she's not interested. If she says yes, you know she is.
Author oldSOULe Posted October 18, 2011 Author Posted October 18, 2011 (edited) Sorry for double post Edited October 18, 2011 by oldSOULe double post
ScienceGal Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 Hard saying since it is so early on. Definitely ask her out on another date. Limit the texting and rely on face to face communication. Good luck!
smudge21 Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 Ever thought she might be embarrassed about falling asleep whilst on a date? Basically her reasons could be anything, maybe she was hoping you'd make a move and when you acted the perfect gent, you left her confused (she may be used to dating guys who are only interested in one thing) and now she's unsure how to handle it. She may only want short term things, quick fun, rather than something serious. I don't know, and neither do you. So give it a few days and ask her out again. Don't rely on texts or social media to further this as others have said. If she agrees to another date, then just carry on as you have been doing... but maybe avoid watching the movie next time.
AH1990 Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 ...... maybe she was hoping you'd make a move and when you acted the perfect gent, you left her confused (she may be used to dating guys who are only interested in one thing) and now she's unsure how to handle it........ Now that I think about it, the girl that I was seeing for a little bit, ended up doing the same thing. Geez we even cuddled together in my bed and I didn't make a move (this was about 2-3 weeks in, maybe on the 3rd date). I think she was used to dating *********s, same as the girl you are seeing. So her whole perspective on things gets changed when you are together alone, and you never made a move. Mind you, I'd do the same thing. I'd rather get to know the girl first before anything.
hurtingheart Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 I don't thiknk the falling asleep early on means that she doesn't like the OP. One time I had a girl on a second or third date fall asleep at her house while watching a movie, I tucked her in and left, and an hour later she called wondering why I left. Haha That relationship lasted for about six months. People fall asleep and it's no big deal. I'm wondering of why you think that she doesn't like you.
Author oldSOULe Posted October 18, 2011 Author Posted October 18, 2011 Yeah, think im probably just over thinking this. Will leave it a few days to a week then ask her out again and see whats what. I dont think she doesnt like me, i thought the exact opposite. Anyway i have few other girls im talking too at the moment with possible dates so ill keep exploring other avenues. Got to admit though this girl was rather lovely
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