"other people"

[LeatherFeather78]

Hi everyone,

 

I am new here but have been lurking for a while. Divorced (f) after a 10 year marriage, no kids. Began dating a guy this summer, so about 5 months now. He is also recently divorced, about a year ahead of me. I am mid thirties, he is late thirties.

 

I had not intended anything serious to come from this, but I do like him more than I initially imagined I would, so my ego is just a little hurt I guess. We had been drinking, and he started talking about how he did not want to see other people, because he likes me, but he thought i really should date other guys. Hehe, he wants me to tell him before I sleep with someone else. We always use condoms anyway.

 

So what do you guys think is going on? Please be honest. I think he wants a friends with benefits type of thing but doesn't really see himself as that sort of person. Both of our relationship experience mainly comes from our ex-spouses. We do plenty of things together that don't end in sex, so I'm confused. I'm sure he is too. I can answer questions/provide clarification if necessary.

 

Thanks! I would appreciate any and all insight.

[whichwayisup]

In his own way he's telling you that he likes you but doesn't want to get too serious. Aka, if you meet someone else that you click with, go for it and don't think twice about hurting him.

 

I could be wrong but he doesn't seem too emotionally invested in you so maybe you need to detach slightly from him and not let yourself fall too deep for him.

[ChessPieceFace]

Sounds like after his divorce, he is (wisely) wary about ever entering another relationship with any woman.

[LeatherFeather78]

Thanks for the responses. I know we are both very wary about getting hurt again. I guess I'm just worried I've been put into a "temporary" slot until someone better comes along, although he says he's not looking.