Astanton01 Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 My ex broke up with me 8 days ago and I'm a mess. He put the entire blame on me, told me I wasn't good for him, and that he now realizes I'm not ready for a relationship. He claims it was my mood swings that, he said that I looked dead in my eyes, and that I was making him sick. He said that he hardly sees his friends, that he's not doing well in school, and that he's losing weight from not eating. I will take responsibility for my mood swings, but it was unfair for him to blame the rest on me when his own troubled past and anxiety problems contributed to his problems and are stressing him out. I tried reminding him that I always encouraged him to hang out with his friends and offered for us to do schoolwork together but he claims I would be upset if I didn't get enough time with him. I really think we could've worked it out but he never gave me the chance, he just threw it all on me one night. When the day before he was telling me how he wished everyone looked at him the way I did and that I was perfect for him and how I'm the best thing in his life. The night of the breakup he was quick to unfriend me on Facebook. The next day I sent a couple messages asking if we could at least be friends, he blocked me. I sent him one final message from another account saying goodbye. We were only dating a month, but we fell for each other real fast. It felt different from my previous 5 relationships. I thought everything was perfect, and now he's gone. I'm terrified he's gone forever. How could he just delete me from his life, like I never even mattered at all, like I'm not worth working it out. I just wish he'd realize that it wasn't all my fault, and that we could work it out. What can I do to get him to at least unblock and talk to me? Since his sudden mood change all happened over the course of a couple hours of one day, I thought he was just confused and stressed out. I thought he'd calm down and rethink the situation, but it's been a week. I've looked at different websites, most suggesting a "no contact" period, but how long do I have to wait? And what if he doesn't contact me? Will I look stupid contacting him after I said the last message was my last?
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