bdbmwer Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 gonna summarize as much as i can. she broke things off sept 18th after some pushing from me asking her if its what she wanted because she was becoming increasingly distant. gave the whole "break" line and "ill probably come back to you with a little time off" and said she wanted to stay friends. went to the football game the following day and she was flirting and asking me to stay around while she worked a booth. We have class together mondays and wensdays and sit near each other. First day back she texts me then calls me wanting to hang out till class I said she can come if she wants. she says yes and never shows up and class that day was SO awkward with no talking so out of respect for myself i called her and initiated NC because shes giving mixed signals. a week goes by and I fear being percieved as spiteful(idk why) and thought well maybe LC would work if i act nonchalant. So i go into class and smile and let her do all the talking thinking I was getting somewhere then i found out she left me for another guy who shes been hanging out with now and at the end of our relationship. that made me fed up so I came into class the wendsday and gave her some things of hers and sat far away with the intention of going NC again without announcing it. Apparantly this had a profound affect on her cause this is where she started being immature. She calls me after class to meet up so we do and she tells me she got kicked out of her house and i asked her what she wanted me to do about it( i dont want to be a doormat) she said it was a mistake calling me so i wished her the best of luck and left. Next week rolls around and im continuing my NC pattern and once again that night after class she texts me asking why i deleted her from fb which i did 2 weeks ago! ignored. Now for the reason this story is in this section! starting last wendsday when were in class she talks way louder then necessary with this fraternity guy she has NEVER paid attention to untill now and was like "can i have a piece of paper" then immediately "thanks i freaking LOVE you!" and then tried to flirt more at the end of class". I brushed it off and figured it would be a one time deal. thursday her friend tries to pry into my life, i dont respond, then my ex texts me asking our professors email, no response, THEN she calls me later and I dont answer this either. Went to the club that night ran into her friend that i ignored while i was dancing with a new girl(HAHA!). Come back to class today and she does the SAME thing with a different guy. This time one i used to talk to when i was back there and she would talk crap about him now shes like "omg i saw you friday I was gonna tag you in photos but were not facebook friends we need to change that!" and various flirting near the end of class again. this is definately not normal behavior for her. she usually just sits quietly in the back and eyes me lol. If she broke up with me, and is so occupied with this new guy then why in the world is she trying SO hard to A) get in touch and B) make me jealous in class. Why do exes do this and not just let me heal.ive heard about her talking crap about me also. The breakup was an amicable one and I treated her better than any of her other ex's. her new guy is a going-nowhere coke dealer... so why the change in attitude. really sorry everyone for the length i tried to summarize as much as possible.if you need further clarification of specifics just say so and ANY feedback is appreciated. additional thought: since her new fling is not official and theyre already having trouble and theyve known each other for a while already claiming to be "just friends" is it possible she actually doesnt want to be vulnerable but is trying to reach out through anything she can to get me to talk to her? Or is she just trying to get me back to a state of mind where she can string me along like a backup plan like i think she is?
wilsonx Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 Shes just being a "girl" notice how I did not say woman. Keep continuing NC, shes being a childish bitch, just like a lot of peoples' exs here and do your best to forget about her and focus on you
Author bdbmwer Posted October 18, 2011 Author Posted October 18, 2011 Shes just being a "girl" notice how I did not say woman. Keep continuing NC, shes being a childish bitch, just like a lot of peoples' exs here and do your best to forget about her and focus on you yea it is our first semester of college shes 18 so that probably has a LOT to do with it. but as much as i try to ignore it and move on its starting to get to me I was so close to pulling her aside after class and telling her to stop all the ****ty games but knew shed like that rise inevitably.
Author bdbmwer Posted October 18, 2011 Author Posted October 18, 2011 insight anyone? im looking for opinions whether to continue NC go LC or NIC since shes contacting me all the time i just cant pinpoint which is best for my situation I would like to reconcile later but not like a needy thing id want to take it slow and let it develop but i still want that door open
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