iamaustin5 Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 Not looking for criticism, I know what I'm going to say isn't exactly the ideal dating scenario, and I know that I should probably get to know her better first. All I need to know is how to do this, let me take care of the rest >_<. I'm 16 going on 17, a Junior in high school, she is a Freshman, just turned 15. I met this girl the first day of school, and we've been cool ever since. But a few weeks ago we went to this party, and we got REALLY close. We held hands, kissed, had our hands all over each other. Anyways, we've gotten really close sense then, and all our friends pretty much assume we're together, but... well we aren't. Its like dating her, except I'm not. I really like her, and she knows it. I've never had a problem with confidence, never had any problem approaching girls, and I have no problem telling her I love her and asking her to officially be boyfriend and girlfriend, but I don't know HOW to do it. How do I approach her, tell her that I want to be with her? I know its just high school dating, and I've had many girls before her, but this time I feel something different. I'm not afraid to go to her, but I don't want to say something I shouldn't and ruin what we sorta have. All suggestions are welcome, and you can criticize me if you like, just respect that I can ignore it. And yes, I joined JUST to ask this.
Feelin Frisky Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 Hiya young guns. Welcome to LS. Do you not expect to be encountering her again? If you know you'll be seeing her say hello and all that and then tell her you'd like to have a quiet talk with her if that's OK with her. Rendezvous with her. Be warm and then just be honest that you think about her a lot. Always try to sense what she's feeling and adjust what you say accordingly. But since you initiated, do your best to get across why you asked to see her without crowding her--that you'd like to know if she would become your g/f. Whatever you do, do not appear like a fawning dweeb. You want her to WANT you--you don't want to make it all about telling her what YOU WANT. So, try to look confident and unfrail so that she feels comfortable with you. Bada-beep bada-boop bada-bing. Good luck.
Author iamaustin5 Posted October 18, 2011 Author Posted October 18, 2011 I don't think I'll have any problem doing it, just didn't know WHAT to do. So thank you for this. Also, I see her every morning.
Feelin Frisky Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 I don't think I'll have any problem doing it, just didn't know WHAT to do. So thank you for this. Also, I see her every morning. Do you go up and speak to her every morning?
Author iamaustin5 Posted October 18, 2011 Author Posted October 18, 2011 Yeah. I usually walk up, she runs over and hugs me, we hold hands and talk, as well as each of us going to hang out with our friends off and on, then go back to each other. We have about an hour together each morning, this is at school of course.
The Tiger Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 She probably already thinks you're going out.
Author iamaustin5 Posted October 18, 2011 Author Posted October 18, 2011 She probably already thinks you're going out. She doesn't. Which is why I'm here.
Eddie Edirol Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 You could wait for her to hint that she wants to be your girlfriend, or that youre a couple. It usually works better that way when she has to work for it. Otherwise you could just say "what do you think of us being an official couple?" That way, if she avoids the answer, you know shes not really into you. If she lights up at the idea, youre in.
Feelin Frisky Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 Yeah. I usually walk up, she runs over and hugs me, we hold hands and talk, as well as each of us going to hang out with our friends off and on, then go back to each other. We have about an hour together each morning, this is at school of course. Yeah so I suggest following my original advice. You have to take a little risk but it sounds like she's really into you. She might be very pleased. I wish you well.
Author iamaustin5 Posted October 18, 2011 Author Posted October 18, 2011 Thank you all. I will follow your advice, Frisky.
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