my body is a cage Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 This guy who I have had a crush on for a while and I finally hooked up 1.5 weeks ago. I am one year older than him. We didn't have sex. We had been talking a lot and he would always "chat" me. The hookup went well and I stayed over at his place. We cuddled and he fell asleep for bit then he told me he had a short dream that we were in line for an art museum then we got a hotel room (... ha). While we were hooking up he called me "so hot" and "really sexy." We get along well and have a similar sense of humor, blah blah. Anyway, he hasn't asked me to hang out since then! I texted him afterward to tel him a story about my journey home and he responded immediately with emoticons and "lol." THen later I said I had fun and he should let me know if he wants to hang out again and he texted me a snowman emoticon and asked how this job interview was. Since then I texted him once to ask him how the rest of his weekend was and he resonded immediately and asked me in kind. Then I chatted him a couple of days later and we had a convo but he didn't seem too invested... (then again, I think he was at work). I realize this was forward on my part but I did this after asking a guy friend advice, as I generally tend to me kinda shy with guys I like and he said no guy would mind if a hot girl "pestered" him, as I put it. But yeah, he hasn't asked me to hang out since then! Apparently he told a mutual friend that we had hooked up but not had sex and had asked, "whats up with girls?" This makes me wonder if he's less interested because we didn't have sex... or if he was only in it for sex in the first place? I just don't get it, I love having sex but then I feel like the guy judges me for it, now I feel like I'm being judged for not having sex Anyway, this guy also told me he was writing a story about a guy who is unsuccessful romantically in that he can take women to bed but it never goes anywhere beyond that, so I don't think he's the type to make categorical madonna vs. whore distinctions... maybe he thinks I was playing games, and maybe I was? ugh. Also, I realized this guy was "interested" because this friend told me that before she knew me really she would say to him that she thought I was so hot blah blah and he said he agreed and regretted not hooking up with me bc I'm "crazy." IDK what this means at all, but I'm worried it means he wouldn't take me seriously. Also its really not fair because he's REALLY wild so idk where he gets off making judgements about other people's sanity. hmph. Also, apparently he ran into a casual friend of mine and they decided to go to a museum together. This girl is Little Ms. Perfect and had a really hot boyfriend for three years, its not fair! She texted me though and apparently they went to a museum together and then she got too drunk and threw up. I'm not surprised he's "playing the field" (he also had a long term gf for a while) but I feel like I'm always the one that doesn't get taken seriously. People have told me I have to be conscious of guys using me for my body, but I feel like I can't win! I'm just so tired of only hooking up with guys and not dating them! What should I do in this scenario? I feel like he's not that interested or even attracted to me... I mean, if he were just looking to hook up, he still would have contacted me, no?
alphamale Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 I'm just so tired of only hooking up with guys and not dating them! What should I do in this scenario? find a man with a moral compass and stop running after good looking losers
CarrieT Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 sorry but i forgot one thing: grow up You totally crack me up, Alpha! :D:D
alphamale Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 You totally crack me up, Alpha! :D:D i'm glad i still got it...
Author my body is a cage Posted October 17, 2011 Author Posted October 17, 2011 sorry but i forgot one thing: grow up thank you for your profound and mature insight.
alphamale Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 thank you for your profound and mature insight. no thanks necessary biac
Author my body is a cage Posted October 17, 2011 Author Posted October 17, 2011 no thanks necessary biac hardee har har youre a funny one... sort of ironic that a grown man spends all his time perusing dating websites and gets off on telling younger girls to "grow up" on the internet. you don't know me or anything about me or my life, please leave me alone.
The Tiger Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 alphamale is right. If guys are just using you for your body then STOP giving them your body! Why are you regretting not having sex with a guy who isn't your boyfriend? Is that what you think you need to do to make a guy enter into a relationship with you? If that is what it takes, then there's something wrong with your personality, or that of the guys you're going after, or both.
Author my body is a cage Posted October 18, 2011 Author Posted October 18, 2011 (edited) :lmao: you are pathetic, please get off my thread. Edited October 18, 2011 by my body is a cage
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