lfisher92 Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 So ill give you all the gist of things, i met this girl who i always had some feelings for but she was with my mate at the time. however they broke up and me and her started to spend alot of time together, this then developped into us both agreeing we liked eachother and things started to take off from there. It was never easy she was a very high maintenance girl and was annoying at times, she did play with my head but no matter what she always said she liked me and was happy with me, and she made me very happy aswell. We were very happy and were seeing eachother for about 4 months. Before her and her ex broke up they had booked a holiday together and decided they werent going to cancel it because they were still mates (ill add the holiday was with her family aswell, mum dad and her daughter) when she came back she just ended it there and then with me with no explanation at all, and if i ask her she refuses to tell me. But she swore it wasnt because she wanted her ex back. Then few weeks after that i got a text off her saying she still in love with her ex and so on. this hurt me alot. now shes acting like im the bad guy, she has a go at me all the time, she tells me she doesnt want a relationship with anyone, including her ex (who shes living with????!) and just acts like she doesnt care. If i try to arrange to meet up she says no and that theres no point in talking. I have a problem though and this is what i want advice with, no matter what i try i cant move on and forget her and its driving me mad and is quite painful, all i want to do is move on. i try not to contact her but one moment of weakness and ive sent that text. Can anyone give me some ways on which i can forget about her and move on? ill add i tried seeing anouther girl but i just couldnt do it. Thanks and sorry for long winded explanation. lol. Need to know anything else just ask lol.
TheDovic Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 Hey dude, Sorry to hear about this, it sucks. Unfortunately the only real cure is time, but there are some things you can do to ease the pain. Personally I find reading helps, especially Susan Elliot's breaking up book. If you're not a big reader I've found self hypnosis cds (listened to everyday) to be helpful at taking away those strong feelings. I've been using Paul McKenna's "I can mend your broken heart" cd, which comes free with his book. Also speaking to friends and coming onto Loveshack help me get through. It's not easy buddy but I'm so much better now than I was 3 months ago when we broke up. I was with my ex for 4 years, was engaged and lived together, so if I can make progress so can you!
Author lfisher92 Posted October 17, 2011 Author Posted October 17, 2011 Thanks guys, i know times the perfect healer, wish time would move fast though lol. Supose the main reason its hard is the fact i spoke to her everyday and i practically lived at hers i spent that much time with her and now i hardly speak to her and i couldnt say last time i saw her. Does feel like she doesnt care but over time hopefully will get better. I do talk to my friends but i can tell im boring them now. Thanks again guys.
smudge21 Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 You've known someone for a while, without you knowing it they've got under your skin over that time then things have picked up, and your world has felt so complete. Then, just when things have looked perfect, it's all been snatched away from you, and no matter what you hear, nothing, nothing will help you accept how this has all happened. I know that pain... All you can do now is go no contact and give time a chance to heal you. You won't ever get the closure you need as she'll never tell you anything that can help you, nor will staying in touch with her help in any way. So forget trying to stay friends if that was on your mind. I tried that with mine, would've loved to have gone back to how things were between us, but it can never be the same. That part of our lives has gone forever. Stay NC and stay strong. It does get better but it does take time.
TheDovic Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 I do talk to my friends but i can tell im boring them now. Thanks again guys. You won't bore anyone on here dude. We're all in the same boat, so vent when you need to and ask questions when you need!
Author lfisher92 Posted October 18, 2011 Author Posted October 18, 2011 Cheers guys, its weird last week we had an argument and we boh agreed to stay out of eachothers way to let time do its work, for me that is as she says shes moved on completely. So i said ok i wont contact her until she contacts me again. I thought it would be months before i heard anything or if i ever did again. But she text me on sunday night with a funny text about something that happened between us like a good memory. and then she did the same again today on my facebook. I dont get her she says she wants space away so i can forget but she still contacts me and whenever she does its always about like a good time she remembered. One day i believe shes over us and doesnt give a **** but next day part me of thinks she does miss me. Very confusing girl!
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