Maggiemoo Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 I have been married for 8 years with 2 kids. Since we have been married my husband has never spent much time with me or the kids. He leaves for work at 4:30 AM and gets home at 4:30 PM M-F. And as soon as he gets home He plays with the kids sometimes for MAYBE a 1/2 hour or so and then is out doing his thing--which is working on the yard or working on various projects. He is RARELY home on the weekends--he goes hunting, makes wine or sausages or he is helping his friends with their projects or is working on our rental property. When I ask if he is going to be home on a particular day he blows up at me and thinks that I am making a big deal about how much he works. It just seems like he takes every opportunity he can to be away from us. I am a stay at home mom and I am with my kids ALL the time--he won't even let me get a babysitter. And the occasional time that we do go out it is like he wants to get home right away. I am not to say that I am not to blame in our fighting--it does get frustrating being with kids and then never getting a break so I do blow up too. He is blaming all of this on my hormones--and never admits that he is not around. I feel like my life is passing me by here and I feel like I want more in life. I have done everything to try to fix it--I have gone to therapy myself and he has gone twice and just told me that he doesn't have time for it anymore. I have read books on this and I have even gotten a new bow to try to go practice bow hunting with him--which is something that I thought he would like to do together but we have only ever gone once. I am at a breaking point here. Do you think I should continue to try to work it out or is it over?
Isitover Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 I think you should find something you like to do and start doing it (at least once a month). You need some "mommy" time. Just let him know in advance so he can make plans to stay home with the kids. It is unfair that you spend all your time at home while he gets to do whatever he wants, whenever he wants. Then maybe he will appreciate what you do and want to start spending more time with you and the kids and maybe start taking you out on some dates. That's just my opinion.
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