steve566 Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 heres the history if you want to read it http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t301156/ basically my ex dumped me because she felt we wanted different things in the near future, marriage, kids, house together. We dated for 2 years and are both 27, during the course of the relationship i felt and told her that i wasnt at a point where i wanted to be married and for sure wasnt ready for kids. I felt maybe i would be ready in a few years but this wasnt going to work for her so she broke up with me... but now i feel almost 2 months later that i need those things in my life and that i was a fool to think i wasnt ready.. Even if not with her i feel im ready to settle down with someone. Is this just a desperate reaction from the break up or am i realizing that girls my age are in the position to settle down so to make a relationship work i have to consider the future sooner than i originally thought? any insight or opinions?
k100danny Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 This really does sound like you may be changing yourself to fit rather than actually wanting those things. I have changed my opinions of things to stay in relationships not as serious as this but looking back i shouldnt have done it, i actually believed i wanted those things too. your mind is a very powerful thing. I cant say that you havent just decided that yes you actually want those things because maybe you have, i think th eonly way to know for sure is to try and be 100% honest with yourself.
Author steve566 Posted October 17, 2011 Author Posted October 17, 2011 yea i think maybe ive convinced myself of that because thats what she wanted and now i want her back... I do see myself getting married and thought it would have been to her but i guess we were on different time lines and it just didnt work out. Oh well i guess i should go spend some time with my brothers family because his kids are what made me realize maybe fatherhood wasnt for me
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