michelleishere Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 (edited) Hello I had to break up with my partner. We had been seeing each other for two years and this is a summary of what he did: 1. Pushed me 2. Called me names 3. Borrowed lots of $$ and never paid it back 4. Lost me three jobs 5. Smashed the inside of my car and the driver's door 6. I found text messages from other women, asked him about it and it pushed me around and called me names. He said he became angry cause I did not trust him. 7. Found a woman's full name and her bank details. He stated he was going to put $$$ into her bank but never did. 8. Found he had Internet dating profiles. Asked him about this and he stated he put them there in case I was looking at sites, so I then had to justify why I knew - I Googled his email username. 9. He kept going out on weekends 10. Left me alone when I had a miscarriage 11. Stated that I never deserved to be a mother 12. Lied (lots) 13. He was never employed longer than 6 months I have gone NC but he's seeing someone else now..... How come guys find someone sooooooo quickly? Why couldn't he be nice to me like he is to her? What's wrong with me? Oh, he does not understand why we broke up Edited October 17, 2011 by michelleishere more detail
KathyM Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 Hello I had to break up with my partner. We had been seeing each other for two years and this is a summary of what he did: 1. Pushed me 2. Called me names 3. Borrowed lots of $$ and never paid it back 4. Lost me three jobs 5. Smashed the inside of my car and the driver's door 6. I found text messages from other women, asked him about it and it pushed me around and called me names. He said he became angry cause I did not trust him. 7. Found a woman's full name and her bank details. He stated he was going to put $$$ into her bank but never did. 8. Found he had Internet dating profiles. Asked him about this and he stated he put them there in case I was looking at sites, so I then had to justify why I knew - I Googled his email username. 9. He kept going out on weekends 10. Left me alone when I had a miscarriage 11. Stated that I never deserved to be a mother 12. Lied (lots) 13. He was never employed longer than 6 months I have gone NC but he's seeing someone else now..... How come guys find someone sooooooo quickly? Why couldn't he be nice to me like he is to her? What's wrong with me? Oh, he does not understand why we broke up What took you so long to dump this guy? Gosh, woman, have some self respect and don't ever let a man treat you this way. What you've described is horrible. Don't ever allow yourself to be abused by any man. Men who abuse women justify it to themselves by thinking that the woman deserved it, or they think what they are doing is nothing so bad. Or they just don't care what you think and they believe they are entitled to act however they please, and if you don't like it, too bad. My older sister's X husband was like that. Abusive to her. Fortunately, she did leave him, and does not have to put up with his abuse ever again. I'm sure your X is now on his best behavior with this other girl to try to establish a relationship, but if it's any consolation, his true abusive self will come out with this new relationship as well, and it, therefore, will not last for long. Most women who do put up with abusive men suffer from low self esteem and don't believe they deserve or can get anyone better. Please don't settle for someone who is abusive. You deserve to be treated well. No man is worth being abused over. It's better to be alone than to be with an abuser. He will only make you feel worse about yourself. Consider yourself lucky to be rid of him finally, and not jealous that he has someone else. Believe me, that relationship will likely not last, but it if does, he will eventually treat the new woman badly as well.
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