whenitsmyturn Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 Ok, so I put my story in a different discussion before, but will write it again....the short version....I was on and off relationship for three years, and the last time we got together we had discussed marriage needless to say he back out of that and told me he wasn't ready for it...so I broke up with him told him I couldn't be with him, because we were in two different places....well we got back together....come to find out NOW that he has a facebook account I am not on it but he has females from his past that have caused problems in our relationship, when I confronted him about it....he said he wasnt communicating with her and that he just added whoever requested him to be friends on facebook....I have a problem with that, but he won't see it...he told me he didn't like the way I was treating him " that I was treating him like a child" so again I broke up with with him...I told him that it was better to go our separate ways because I didn't like to get disrespected and he answered very nonchalant ...ok no problem bye....I need help I need to learn how to let go....because even though we go for NC once he reaches out I respond, please help me with any advice, I really need to let go of this person...HELP! btw did i over react with the facebook, and I am not even on it.
wilsonx Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 (edited) You treated him like a child because he is a child. You just do not realize it. Its not your fault. You did what you were suppose to do, it wasn't working out, so you ended it. Now you have to lock down NC and move on. Focus on you, forget the past, and focus on the present. Don't communicate with him anymore. This is about you moving forward and finding what you want. If you want marriage, look for it with someone else that wants the same thing. He's lying to you about the friend on facebook. Even you know deep down inside. Don't ever doubt yourself or accept someone else's truth over what you believe. Edited October 17, 2011 by wilsonx
Author whenitsmyturn Posted October 17, 2011 Author Posted October 17, 2011 You treated him like a child because he is a child. You just do not realize it. Its not your fault. You did what you were suppose to do, it wasn't working out, so you ended it. Now you have to lock down NC and move on. Focus on you, forget the past, and focus on the present. Don't communicate with him anymore. This is about you moving forward and finding what you want. If you want marriage, look for it with someone else that wants the same thing. He's lying to you about the friend on facebook. Even you know deep down inside. Don't ever doubt yourself or accept someone else's truth over what you believe. Thank you! you are so right!!!
betterdeal Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 Call the phone company and change your phone number. Change your email address too if you need to. Read the guide I wrote (link to in my signature) about losing contact. You've tried the on-off thing and it's not turned out so good for you, so try something new
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