wierd situation !

[confusedlost]

to start from the beginning im only 21 ok but this starts way earlier, i like this girl from 8th grade, so what! right well ok life went on and she started dating this kid she had an abusive childhood and moved out when she was 14 with this guy (only 2 years older) well time went on and i ended up getting a job at the same place she did we started talking eventually and such then about 3 years ago she got engaged to this guy.

then we still talked alot and everyone who worked there before me there didnt like him cause he mentally abused her, he didnt want her to do things with him treated her crappy forgot to pick her up alot stuff like that.called her names. everyone at work told her she need to find someone else he is no good for her and such, well things developed and we started talking alot and stuff and everything and somehow it came out i liked her. things continued (never nothing more then talking or texting) then he ended up kicking her out, and ended the engagement...then a few days later they get back, then we still talked and stuff and she was saying how unhappy she is with him and how shes realizing how much better i was then him, a few months later maybe 2 they break up again, this time for a few months and we start to hang out, everything good she saying how happy she is, how im there for her and everything, then maybe 2 months later they decide to try it again, so she goes back and i cut all contact.

then at a Halloween party last year were both there and shes drunk and comes up to me hugging and crying saying how she made a mistake and misses me and everything like that. ok so we talk a little again and then a month or so after he breaks up with her again, she then comes back to me like before and again how happy she is she loves me what a jerk he is...during these times he keep stalking her to a point saying oh u forgot this when u left and such. parked his car next to hers at school, switched to her gym, then a few months later something she found reminds her of him and she relapses and kinda get weird spaces her slef from me then goes back to him again, once again i cut contact and a few months later something and then she goes back again, then after about a year and half of this i say u need to choose whats more important him or i cause i cant keep going back and forth and how if she keeps saying how happy she is and in love with me she need to decide well she choose me and broke up with him ...we hang out talk and everything for a month or two then she decided to ask me out officially.

ok so now were dating, shes happy everyone says shes happy and never seen her happy before like this and she wants to see me all the time she says shes never been happy begs me not to break up with me and everything, then all of a sudden maybe 2 weeks ago she started acting odd, texts decreasing her not looking at me like she use to, and i kept asking whats wrong and nothing then she was saying how she wants to be alone and wants space cause she dont know what to do i ask do? do what? break up with me she says yes cause she thinks she rushed into a relationship to fast after 6 years of her life with the other guy,how shes not ready for a relationship yet, how shes never been on her own cause she always had him or me there, how she thinks shes not emotionally healed yet, then tells me how she loves me to death and dosent want me out of her life (now she is an extremely attractive girl gets hit on alot and just over all fun,but she snot the type to sleep around or anything very loyal and has morals and we always got along well, we did a lot together, never fought, always talked , and everything was good)

so my question is do u believe she will come back to me, does sheit still loveand me andto just has to workher on herand self? should i forget about her, is she telling the truth how she really does want her space and when she is ready she may come back? i am so very lost please help, i never hurt so bad in my life i have always been there for her no matter what through this whole year and a half

[january2011]

I had a lot of difficulty reading your post and I suspect that's why you haven't had any replies yet.

 

I strongly suggest that the next time you post, you try to write proper sentences with capitalisation and better spacing. I also felt that a lot of the detail in your post was extraneous and confusing.

 

Back to your questions, if she said that she wants her space then I would believe her. She might come back. She might not. In the meantime, you need to get on with your life. I know it hurts and it's hard, but you can't spend your time waiting for her. You need to focus on getting your emotions back to a stable position. Fill your time up with other things and other thoughts so that you are not spending them agonising over what happened.

[confusedlost]

Ha yea sorry, my grammer and such sucks, probily reason why I do so bad on my essays and such in college I don't take me time like I should