flirtatwork Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 I met this girl for the first time a year ago and my feelings for her have been growing and growing. I know she likes up to some point. She had a boyfriend for a long time and now he has moved to another country and they are in an open relationship and before they broke up they decided that she will be going there in december to meet(me hating that). I have gone out with her a couple of times, not as formal dates but some hangarounds and chit chats, taning, eating, icecream, downtown. I dont drink but she drinks and likes to party. I think about her everyday but I dont want her to know that cause I dont want so seem desperate but then I really want her to know cause I like her so much LOL.... She is a very busy gal, work, exercises poling, hot yoga, and just life. And me. Since I stopped drinking and smoking weed(wich I smoked everyday) I haven't got very many friends, and aint so busy all the time cuz back when I smoked most of my friends did to and I had to cut on some relationships when I quit. Not saying I dont have some friends but no one really close except 1 friend, my brothers and my dad. And cause I have lots of free time I think alot about her.. What I mean with this is I have plenty of room for her in my life and I want to be good to her, way better than the dick x boyfriend. She is really open when she is drinking. I met her this weekend and I wasn't really gonna meet her but we just found each other downtown. She had been drinking some but was not ****ed up neither was she sober if you understand what I mean. I was eating some burrito or something and she comes behind me and hugs me and I was really happy to see her. I am a little shy but when people get to know me I aint. So I was really chilled and emotions flowing and **** and she gives me permission to touch her, first I wasn't really sure if I should do it, because she had been drinking and I didnt know what she really wanted, if you know what I mean. but then I did and I touched her legs and her ass and we did hug. I got little awkward and I wanted to go out of the dining place and to the bar she just came from. We did that, btw my friend was with me and he asked me to go buy some cigarettes in the store near by and we go and while we are walking alone me and my friend he said to me.. Why didn't you kiss her!? You should have kissed her?! And I was like ****, why didnt I do something more. I just said to myself that I would set a goal for the evening and that was to kiss her. We did go to some more places and I really did not get into any good situation to try to kiss her. I felt like I didnt have any control of the situation. Long story short I didn't happen, she had made plans with a friend earlier the night to meet, after hanging around with me and some people for some hours she went on and I got a kiss on the cheeks, and I kissed her on her cheek also. I was so pissed to myself for not making the kiss and all and Why I didnt try to get her blow off her meet that she was going to. She lives close to where we were downtown like in a walking range, thats where I wanted to go, some alone time just the 2 of us so It could get intimate, not necessarily sex or anything but I wanted something to show HOW I REALLY FEEL!! . When she came to her place she texted me and told me she had a fun night and we texted a bit and agreed upon a meet the day after. We met for an hour and then she had to go to work, haven't really talked to her much since except some text messages how was work and stuff. Thanks if you took some time and read this, what I want to know is , what did it mean when she wanted me to touch her and all that.... what to do next. How should I approach this, I want to kiss her, I want to be with her more, I want to do more things with her. I want to show her who I really am and how good guy I am! Feel free to ask any questions if you want to know more!!
january2011 Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 She's seeing her ex-boyfriend in December. That seems to indicate that they're not really broken up/over each other. She might like you or she could be using you because she's missing intimacy with her boyfriend. I would step away. You like her but the status of her relationship with her boyfriend is very unclear. Unless he's out of the picture, you could well find yourself playing the third person in this relationship. Presumably you want her all to yourself and are unwilling to be the back-up guy.
Author flirtatwork Posted October 17, 2011 Author Posted October 17, 2011 She's seeing her ex-boyfriend in December. That seems to indicate that they're not really broken up/over each other. She might like you or she could be using you because she's missing intimacy with her boyfriend. I would step away. You like her but the status of her relationship with her boyfriend is very unclear. Unless he's out of the picture, you could well find yourself playing the third person in this relationship. Presumably you want her all to yourself and are unwilling to be the back-up guy. I understand what you are saying. Should I say anything to her? Just stop seeing her? What if she contacts me? And you are right, I want her to myself and I dont want to be a back-up guy, that's right. She told me that they had broke up but they agreed to be in an open relationship. Should I wait 'til it's finished? Thank you for responding, she is all over my mind these days.
january2011 Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 Yes, you should not make a move until it's finished and her heart is free again. In the meantime, take your mind off her and fill it with other things. Try not to get into a situation where you are alone with her so that she can tempt and confuse you again. If she contacts you, you could tell her that you like her too much to share her and until her situation is clear, you'd rather not carry on as you've been doing. You can tell her to contact you when she and her ex-boyfriend are really over each other. And if you're free you'd like to date her but not until she is truly free.
Author flirtatwork Posted October 18, 2011 Author Posted October 18, 2011 So It would not be good for me to try to keep her close and do my best as a "friend" while she's figuring out her situation, then we'll get to know each other better and she starts seeing all the good potential I have, and I get to see her how she is too? I think Im pretty sure that she knows that I want more then just to be friends.
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