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well the last time i spoke with my ex was like a week ago. he text me and we texted for like 2 days, however he wascold and only would reply when he wanted to. I havent text him in almost 2 weeks. I am usually texting him here and there hoping he will right back, but now i am done. I thought he would text me, how could he just move on like nothing and not text me> after everything i did for him....

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its possible that by ignoring you, he's just trying to move on. maybe he still has feelings for you, and by talking to you he gets those feelings again. but hes just trying to see what he really wants. my advice? stop texting him. if he really wants to come back, he will and it will be obvious.

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I hate to say it, but you've got to stop texting him. Remember, he's your ex, so he has no obligation to reply or give you anything for that matter.

 

The more you keep texting him, the more you let him know that you're there waiting for him to change his mind. And that just makes him feel like he can do anything he wants (ie, see other girls) and if things don't work out, he can always count on you to make him feel better about himself. And it seems like he doesn't really care for your feelings, so you'll be boosting his ego while you sit there and suffer.

 

You have to stop contacting him altogether, delete him from any instant messaging programs, Facebook, etc. and make a conscious effort to keep him away from your life. I know this sounds drastic, but honestly, lingering around in his life isn't going to make him change his mind. You'll eventually start to lose your feelings for him, and he'll have an opportunity to evaluate his life without you in it (this is the only opportunity for him to miss you).

 

There are tons of posts in these forums about going No Contact (NC) with you ex, you should check them out and realize the benefits of no contact.

 

All the best.

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completely agree. i hope he realizes

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stop all contact. trust me, it works, but you have to be strong and NOT fall back into it. i have gone NC so many times i cant count, but i think each time i try and fall down, i get back up just a little bit stronger and one of these times.. hopefully this one, i will break the cycle that has consumed me for the last year!

 

a week is a good start!!

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Do you guys think he knows he has control over me? or that he can text me whenever he wants and ill be there?

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