duckhunter Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 So there is this girl I went to high school with, we've now been friends for about 8 years.She lives about 45 min away and always calls me when she is on the way to where I live,(to visit her family on weekends) and we always hang out. Its clear she has had a crush on me for many years and still does, and I like her also. the problem is I'm a very shy guy and can't get myself to ask her out.(or any girls) I get crap from my friends and even my siblings for not asking her on a date. Its not fear of rejection because I'm 100% sure she would say yes. I'm not shy around this girl and have no problem striking up conversation with her, I'm just to shy to ask her out. I need help here, how do I get myself to ask her on a date? What do I say to her?
january2011 Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 Next time you see her, ask her if she'd like to go for a coffee (or whatever she drinks). You can already talk to her as a friend so just carry on with that. The pressure from everyone else might seem too much but at least you actually do like her. So just take the plunge. Otherwise, don't. But in my experience, you never really get this close to a 'sure thing' when asking someone out. So the risk is low. I bet everyone will breathe a huge sigh of relief.
Leegh Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 Possibly you could suggest getting together casually with her during the day, that way it doesn't sound like a "formal" date. If you meet during the day and things go well, you could suggest going to get something to eat, a movie, etc. for later in the evening. It does get easier, it's just like being nervous about flying, each time the person does it, it gets easier. Have you considered asking her out by email? I've had guys ask me out before by email.
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