HeartBrokenInCO Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 My bf of 5 months thinks I cheated but I didn't. Now he won't even speak to me. I am 49, he is 45 so we're not kids. I don't know the history but think there must have been someone in the past that has hurt him terribly. Is there anything I can do? This is killing me, I want to spend my life with this man.
Sazerac Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 Why does he think you cheated? Did someone tell him something; did he give any kind of hint as to why he thinks you cheated? Unless you know something concrete that you can counter with, if he's not talking there's not much you can do until he decides to communicate with you. Sadly, there it is. Are you sure you want to commit to someone with this much baggage and this little trust in you?
Woggle Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 After people get cheated on they look for the slightest red flag the next time. Basically he is paranoid about it.
Space Ritual Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t302603/ Here is Broken's Original Thread in Dating that she posted that gives a little more of the situation. I really cant see where she did anything wrong and her BF is simply a tad jealous and had a completely wrong take on what actually happened.
Author HeartBrokenInCO Posted October 17, 2011 Author Posted October 17, 2011 Thank you all for your replies, I needed reassurance that he had over reacted. I am fairly confident that after he has an opportunity to calm down and reassess the situation he will realize that his assumptions were grossly inaccurate. My first order of business when we can sit down and have a calm, rational conversation is to find out who messed him up so badly so I can avoid this in the future. Again, thank you. I am an emotional wreck right now and not thinking too clearly myself so I can imagine what he must be going through. Things have a way of working themselves out if you just give them a chance.
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