spiritofjosh Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 I've thought this girl I met through a friend was cute for a few months now but never pursued anything because I was unsure on what was going on between her and our friend (Rob). Nothing ever happened with them and they were just good friends. Recently a few weeks ago I told Rob that I've thought she was cute all this time and he told her but nothing really happened. About a week later Rob her and I went to a friend's house for his birthday and she told Rob she thinks I'm cute and I should talk to her. I did that night and she wrote me a message on facebook and we exchanged numbers. She would text me morning until night all that week, even starting each conversation. The beginning of this week she stopped texting me as much and I got discouraged. So I manned up and started texting her then she started texting me a lot again and asked if I wanted to hang out over the weekend. I agreed and she kept insisting I don't bail on her. Last night (saturday) my band played a local show she said she was going to but she worked 8-8 that day and was tired but asked if I wanted her to come, I said I did and she still came to the show. She seemed a little shy and our friend Rob was there and her other friends but she payed more attention to me. After the show she texted me awhile saying she thinks I'm cute and that she always has but didn't think I'd think the same. This morning I went to a breast cancer awareness walk/benefit with my mom and when the mentioned girl woke up she texted me asking how it was etc and that she found somebody to cover for her at work and was going to hang out with her girlfriend until I wanted to hang out. I took a nap when I got home and texted her and she asked if I still wanted to hang out, I said yes. Now where I'm confused, she mentioned Rob was around and offered him to hang out as well. I'm not opposed to this because it at least SEEMS like she's interested in me but why not be ok with hanging out with just us two? Is this a defense a girl puts up when she's shy or nervous to hang out with a boy she likes? Also I'm not even sure if we are hanging out because Rob's meeting with another friend whom doesn't like me. So I told her the situation and she said we had plans and still wanted to hang out but I feel like she wanted to hang out with them too, if not more. I'm having a hard time understanding the situation, does she like me but is just nervous to see me alone? Or just feels more comfortable to see her good friends so it's easier to hang out with them? Any help is much appreciated, thank you.
january2011 Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 Rather than 'hang out' ask her out on a date for coffee (or whatever she drinks), just the two of you. Be very specific about that. If she seems reluctant then I'd take it as a sign that she's not interested enough to want to spend time alone with you.
Author spiritofjosh Posted October 18, 2011 Author Posted October 18, 2011 I ended up hanging out with her anyway that night and she just gave our mutual friend a ride home pretty much because his truck broke the night before. We talked for a couple hours and she texted me this morning. She had work but texted me on break and stuff and throughout the night she mentioned just us going pumpkin picking and going to see the rum diary when it comes out. So it seems good so far, hopefully it stays consistent. Thanks for the advice.
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