Misar7 Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 I very well intend on not speaking with him for a very long time. I need time to let go, forgive, and move on that is for sure. I think it will be good because we can finally be fully apart and I won't have to see him everyday anymore. And you are very right about that, it was his choice! I am coming to accept that every passing day, but sometimes it still gets me that someone other girl gets to be with him and not me ya know? Oh my goodness I could not even imagine how that felt to go through all that. I do think it is good he realized how much of a dumbass he has been and I really admire how you have stood up to your ex now matter how much it hurts and how much you love him. I am hoping in time I will gain that same courage IF my ex ever decides to come back because he has hurt and shattered my trust. He just caused you and himself so much unhappiness, now he has to suffer the concequences. I would take comfort knowing that he still loves me and that he isn't truely happy with that girl. You never know what the future may bring, but all we can both do is move forward. We both gotta stay strong with that NC!! I do have a hunch that my ex's new relationship is based strongly around sex, I mean from what I have heard, those two are always going at it in public. He was never like that with me, he was way more respectful. And I also know that that girl smokes like it is her job and has a "non committing" attitude, whatever that means. Oh and she also slept with his best friend over the summer, after only knowing him for a few weeks. Regardless, I am assuming he really likes her because I don't wanna give myself false hope, but sometimes I question how someone can really fall for someone who is like that. Yes stay NC if he makes the choice to come to you, then at that time you can decide if you care to hear what he has to say. Not sure why I went! It did NOTHING for me, but set me back! I feel very angry all over again! Because, I am not sure if he meant a word he said or not! But, if he does come back, make sure you know why, and that he actually WANTS to work on being back with you, and not just testing the waters just to hurt you all over again. Do not let him play games with you and string you along. Just stay strong for yourself! It probably is based on that right now, and all about fun! I believe that is also what my ex's started out as..fact that she is 11 yrs younger than me with all her tats and piercings, was a drinker pot smoker. Complete opposite of me basically. I know how you feel. It is weird to think, they would choose a woman who does not seem to have much class or morals. Who knows! They made that choice though, ugh!
Author perfectlyflawed459 Posted October 18, 2011 Author Posted October 18, 2011 Yes stay NC if he makes the choice to come to you, then at that time you can decide if you care to hear what he has to say. Not sure why I went! It did NOTHING for me, but set me back! I feel very angry all over again! Because, I am not sure if he meant a word he said or not! But, if he does come back, make sure you know why, and that he actually WANTS to work on being back with you, and not just testing the waters just to hurt you all over again. Do not let him play games with you and string you along. Just stay strong for yourself! It probably is based on that right now, and all about fun! I believe that is also what my ex's started out as..fact that she is 11 yrs younger than me with all her tats and piercings, was a drinker pot smoker. Complete opposite of me basically. I know how you feel. It is weird to think, they would choose a woman who does not seem to have much class or morals. Who knows! They made that choice though, ugh! Yea it is very hard to tell if they really mean it I question if my ex truely meant what he said to me this whole time we started seeing each other again. Regardless, I think for both of us, we need lots of time in order to heal and such, that way if they decide to try and come back in our lives, we can remain strong and stand our ground. I definitely want to become a better, more independent person from all this and prove to him that I don't need him to be happy. I think it was good that you went because you got to hear what he said rather than sit there and wonder ya know? I wish my ex would apologize to me like that, and he may, but who knows for sure. He probably feels like he has to be with this girl just because she is having a baby, who knows, maybe there will be day where he decides that he can't take it regardless of the responsibiltiy he feels like he must take. It would be up to you though if you wanted him back in your life ever after that. It would be so hard to forgive that Yea I really don't get why men choose such an unclassy girl. Everyone agrees that my ex has downgraded tremedously since me and they even say he as become more of a jerk to people in general and smokes and drinks a lot now. He use to be the sweetest guy, which is sad. I mean honestly though, what sort of development can a relationship like that really have? More like a relationS H I T if you ask me hahaha
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