exticy Posted October 16, 2011 Posted October 16, 2011 She broke up with me after our 10 year anniversary because of financial reasons. I have been trying to talk sense into her but it's not getting anywhere. She is sticking by her decision. I have gone into lc with her but that is not working too. Each time she calls is to remind me we are over. She wanted me to Marry her but I was not financially ready because of my business venture. I am an entrepreneur. Every one tells me to move on but I find this difficult as I have spend most of my adult life with her. She seems so cold hearted with indifference. She called last week to tell me she is ready to put single on Facebook and I flipped out. It's like I don't contact her but she calls 1x a week just to piss me off with more ruthless gutless words. I am still in shock I wanted this women to be with me when I am old and gray. I am big on loyal tee and respect. I wanted my kids to look like her. I feel so wronged by life because all I ever did was be there and love her. 100% dedication based on my current situation yet it's useless to her. She has allowed other women to screw up her thinking of the bond we've had for so long. Her father left the family for another women when she wash 16 and never looked back. The father left a black hole in there lives. The mother is lazy, doesn't cook much or clean and has great control over my ex's mind. Her sister has been single with a child jumping from relationship to relationship for 10 years. They lack stability. I think her family got issues and she hates it when I tell her about it and gets defensive. I come from a very loyal and trust worthy family. I introduced her to church and showed her all she knows since now. My only flaw was that I didnt marry her early on. I regret this now. But the reason I did not was I felt we would financially struggle. I did not want a hard life for us so I invested all my time and effort in making real money. Her family thinks that I'm taking advantage of her but they don't know my plans. I told once I make it big we can live anywhere we want, travel the world. Anything of great value requires big sacrifices. I wanted to bless my bride with with wealth and love. Few men are able to do both. I feel I am loosing her because I know what is the next event marker she will tell me she has a new man she is dating. When I hear those words I may never speak to her again. The freaking disrespect of our hard work all these years building something. She is a freaking quitter. Very selfish. Why women love money so much .........???????????? What should I do ??? Go into nc forever.? Tell her don't call me anymore?
amandap Posted October 16, 2011 Posted October 16, 2011 exticy, I know exactly how you feel, i was also with my ex for 10 years though we are i would guess older than you, we were engaged and living together for 10 years with great plans for our future, he said and still says to this day ( nearly 4 months on ) i am and will always be the love of his life, what changed was his 20 yrs old son came back into his life after many many years, it seems he now wants a new life with his son,, ok my ex like yours phones me weekly, he cant seem to let go completely, and yes it breaks my heart ever time, so this is what i am going to do and have started, i would normally txt him in the week but it doesnt help as it is always me starting the txting, so this week i have finally stopped, he txted me mid week and i ignored it, so when he rang yesterday he wanted to know why i didnt responed, i just said oh im to busy, considering it was always me starting the txting it has now changed he has already txted me today with a joke hoping i would txt back but im not going to, i am now going to be less available to him and make him miss me more, this is what i think you should do, make them miss you and feel like they are losing you, it will also help you to heal, this is hard for you but go NC for awhile youe will get stronger i promise
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